so here i am sippin on cheap wine pondering everything thats gone on with my fetish in the past 10 years. i have just one thing to say... if you arent open about your fetish, you really should be.
opening up might cause ridicule and shame but if you OWN up to it theres so much more good than bad. i swear to you i cant be happier about my open personality.
i admit that i dont know your personality and i dont know how easy it would be to open up. i dont know how you are viewed by others and i dont know how you view yourself and it is all pertinent but everyone i know knows that i have no shame in my words or thoughts. i say what i want with the occasional respect for time and place, and to be open about my fetish really just compliments that personality so i suppose my point of view is a bit biased.
but the point remains. closed mouths dont get fed. it will be hard to get what you want if you dont let it be known that it is desired.
im not endorsing the complete exposure of your potential creepiness to the world all in an instant. ease your way into it. dont be scared. its like dating girls... you WILL get rejection, but u have to learn to take it in stride. nobody will hate you for legitimately attempting to get what you want. just make sure you dont take it too far with any parties involved and the worst that can happen is someone will poke a little fun at you.
dont believe me? look at my endeavors. all the girls involved did all this material for free, on a whim with nothing more than a lil conversation. (ok i did one or two videos with a pedicure as compensation but thats only fair right?) yes i understand that not everyone will be as successful as me, but you never know!
Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
I agree 100%...I always feel bad for the guys who are living their lives ashamed because they like feet. It's your fault that you are living in that bubble..You are free to like what you want AND THERE ARE MUCH WORSE THINGS TO LIKE..So live life man...IT'S TOO SHORT NOT TO..
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
Excellent advice edelbrock. It's exactly the same advice I received from fellow forum members when I joined years ago as someone who still "had my mouth closed". I took their advice to tell my wife about my fetish. She jumped into it with both feet and has made me an incredibly happy foot man ever since.
Posted by Catan (Member # 4980) on :
I completely agree. I've been open to the past few girlfriends I've had and all of them were accepting to what I enjoyed. In fact, when I told one of them about my fetish she opened up about things she enjoyed. Unless you are open about it then you will only be holding yourself back in a relationship. Enjoy the beauty of the female foot!
Posted by solefull00 (Member # 44401) on :
yesterday I go to church with my mom for easter sunday. As were hanging around getting ready to leave, my friend from church introduces me to his sister in law. So we exchange pleasantries and we make small talk and I get her number. So we're textin back and forth later on and we were talking about something and I made a comment like "One thing I notice about you was that you might have pretty feet, what's your shoe size?" and she answered "ummm thats kinda weird you like feet?" and I replied "lol weird? I guess I'm a freak then lol" "I just know what I like". And later on, as the convo got more juciy, i mentioned how good I am with my hands giving massages and how people always tell me how I give the best foot massages and of course now she wants me to come visit her. Wish me luck!
Posted by Those Toes (Member # 2489) on :
Your avatar is the best.
Posted by Talos (Member # 39913) on :
Words of wisdom!
Posted by 2swift (Member # 16002) on :
Hmmm....I would have to ask what you mean about being "open" and with who? If you are speaking of women you are dating, or potential girlfriends...then yes, at some point in time I would think it would be relevant or a subject for discussion at some time. As with most subjects of a sensitive nature that can come up when dating, choose your moments and be tactful and honest in the discussion. For me, it would not be a subject to be brought up within the first few mins of a first date. No more than you would bring up over dinner, perhaps your fondness for anal sex. In otherwords, be cool and respectful.
I am very open in regards to my fetish with my wife...and get "fed" quite often as a result. You have seen our picture sets on here many times over, so you all know she is cool with it bigtime. A by product of being together for as long as we have, and our skills of communication between each other.
Now given all I have said...for my own personal tastes, I do not broadcast or share my love of feet out in the open and put it on display for all of my friends, coworkers, and aquaintances to know and see. It is just not how I am built.
My fetish and love of sexy feet is quite personal to me, and something I keep close to home. Not because I am ashamed, or embarrased...but because it is that personal. To broadcast it or share it so openly with anyone would be akin to me telling them..."Do you know what my favorite sexual position is, Doggystyle! I just love bending her over and watching her ass as we have sex! Don't you like that position?! I also love oral, don't you?!" This is all information that I would just keep private and at home for my wife and I to enjoy together, and avoid potentially awkward situations with our friends and neighbors.
Now...this is not to say if I were "confronted" and someone asked if I had a thing for female feet, I would not answer. I would be direct and tactful in my reply, but I would answer of course...just not embelish, again for the same reasons listed above.
Regardless, whoever you decide to open up about this with, honesty, respect and tactfulness go a long way.
Regards, 2swift
Posted by Sol (Member # 2476) on :
I've told every girl I've ever dated that I like feet, and I did so on the first date. 100% success rate.
It has absolutely everything to do with your personality and confidence. If liking feet is just a normal thing for you and something you expect girls to accept, then they will accept it. If, however, you see it as this sacred thing that can only be shared at the right time, and you are worried about how you will be perceived, then you will always be less satisfied than someone like me.
Sad but true.
Posted by edelbrock (Member # 17055) on :
quote:Originally posted by Sol: I've told every girl I've ever dated that I like feet, and I did so on the first date. 100% success rate.
It has absolutely everything to do with your personality and confidence. If liking feet is just a normal thing for you and something you expect girls to accept, then they will accept it. If, however, you see it as this sacred thing that can only be shared at the right time, and you are worried about how you will be perceived, then you will always be less satisfied than someone like me.
Sad but true.
I wouldn't say anyone is less satisfied. But yes u are right. It all depends on how u see your fetish. If you want the action u gotta speak about it... whether for private sacred affairs or if you generally like getting attention all around.
I like my friends knowing about my fetish. You'd shit your pants if u saw how many texts and how many facebook tags or referrals I get of girls' feet and fresh pedicures!
Posted by solefull00 (Member # 44401) on :
quote:Originally posted by solefull00: yesterday I go to church with my mom for easter sunday. As were hanging around getting ready to leave, my friend from church introduces me to his sister in law. So we exchange pleasantries and we make small talk and I get her number. So we're textin back and forth later on and we were talking about something and I made a comment like "One thing I notice about you was that you might have pretty feet, what's your shoe size?" and she answered "ummm thats kinda weird you like feet?" and I replied "lol weird? I guess I'm a freak then lol" "I just know what I like". And later on, as the convo got more juciy, i mentioned how good I am with my hands giving massages and how people always tell me how I give the best foot massages and of course now she wants me to come visit her. Wish me luck!
Posted by lalafeet (Member # 44644) on :
My situation is a little different. Is it because I'm female or is it because I love my own feet? I don't think it's fair, but when a guy has a foot fetish the world classes that as creepy. When a women has a foot fetish she likes to buy shoes. BULLSHIT! Because believe you me there are not too many people that I come in contact with that don't know I think my feet are beautiful and that they are my favorite part of Me. But I don't think the average person translates this into a foot fetish. Even though it is. I love FEET. Period! End of Story!
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
I agree as well. I've had quite a few female "friends with benefits" in my time and let them know through my actions that I think female feet are sexy. This has allowed me to indulge in their feet on quite a few occasions - everything from toe sucking to footjobs. If a woman is comfortable with you and you treat your fetish as just a normal thing, she will respond positively and let things flow.
Posted by solefull00 (Member # 44401) on :
quote:Originally posted by lalafeet: My situation is a little different. Is it because I'm female or is it because I love my own feet? I don't think it's fair, but when a guy has a foot fetish the world classes that as creepy. When a women has a foot fetish she likes to buy shoes. BULLSHIT! Because believe you me there are not too many people that I come in contact with that don't know I think my feet are beautiful and that they are my favorite part of Me. But I don't think the average person translates this into a foot fetish. Even though it is. I love FEET. Period! End of Story!
I love your feet too Lala
Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
quote:Originally posted by lalafeet: My situation is a little different. Is it because I'm female or is it because I love my own feet? I don't think it's fair, but when a guy has a foot fetish the world classes that as creepy. When a women has a foot fetish she likes to buy shoes. BULLSHIT! Because believe you me there are not too many people that I come in contact with that don't know I think my feet are beautiful and that they are my favorite part of Me. But I don't think the average person translates this into a foot fetish. Even though it is. I love FEET. Period! End of Story!
Yeah, every time a girl tells me, "Oh, I have a shoe fetish," in response to learning I have a foot fetish, I always ask if shoes turn them on. They look at me odd and say, "No, I just like them." I then say, "Well, then you don't have a shoe fetish." LOL...
Patrick
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
I guess being open about it depends on who your audience is. Personally for me its private and only select friends and family know. Its not a topic I bring up in polite conversation ever. Of course in a relationship with a girlfriend or wife I let the foot thing out of the bag as soon as things got physical.
Never bring it up at work though. That will always bite you in the ass. Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
Ok...Let me be the first to say, THANK YOU LeDeamon for bringing us La La...I love her already...The pics were hot off the rip. But Her newest avatar is killing me...My God, I love girls who love their own feet...THERE IS NOTHING HOTTER IN THE WORLD!!!
No, I didn't send any private messages or anything because I know that you guys have that in box on blast...lmao...
Posted by ddash1985 (Member # 18676) on :
Yup I agree.
I don't think any of my foot fun would've came if I didn't mention it or just take a chance on asking or saying things.Just be respectful,cool and confident.Don't be creepy or a jerk because never know what can happen in the future or if you messed up your chance.
You'd be amazed that some chicks don't mind or don't care if they give you a footjob or let you play with their feet.
I have been shocked at my luck in the last year or so.
Posted by edelbrock (Member # 17055) on :
I guess audience does matter. I have a tendecy to forget that generally speaking, sex is not a taboo subject among my friends. But that's not to say ever discussion about feet is carnal, and in fact often opens up to the idea that my love for feet practically transcends my sexual desires (save for theraging hardon I get lol). Usually the people are curious as to how it works and I don't mind spilling my thoughts and musings about the object of my desires.
Posted by BlackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
also has everything to do with physical attraction. if you look like beetlejuice or some dude who is a rapist, no amount of "charm" and "confidence" will get you anything
Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
quote:Originally posted by BlackHxC88: also has everything to do with physical attraction. if you look like beetlejuice or some dude who is a rapist, no amount of "charm" and "confidence" will get you anything
Well, unless you're rich!..You know like Lil Wayne...He has a baby by Lauren London...She's the prettiest thing acting right now...aand he looks like an alien...
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