Have any of you ever complimented a woman on her feet? I try to do this whenever the situation is appropriate. Usually, I'll say, "You've got nice feet," "You look cute barefooted," or "Nice toenails," if they're painted.
Posted by ROYALS22262 (Member # 2681) on :
I do it all the time, and most of the time the women smile and are flattered. I love to see their reactions, it is fun!
Posted by DancingFool (Member # 3728) on :
I used to when I was in HS. It's ironic because even though I was shy and a virgin and scared of girls, I did so with the few girls I was extremely comfortable with. I didn't take it as seriously then.
Even though I always loved looking at girl's feet (with no clear vision of what I wanted to do with them) it was less of a religion for me back then because I didn't discover my religion, which was worshipping feet, until age 19. That's when I became consumed by it and was thus less able to express it with girls I was not intimate with. Although I am much more comfortable with girls now and have no problem expressing it with girls I date, I have become less comfortable addressing it with girls I am not dating.
The whole thing is ironic to me.
Posted by Diabolicus (Member # 7743) on :
Depends, as long as the situation is socially appropriate and we have both already engages in mutual small talk and chit-chat, then occasionally I may make a remark that her feet are in good shape.
I will not however randomly make observational compliments on a persons look out of the blue, and for no other reason then to make the remark for my own personal satisfaction.
In most cases, unless you are hanging out with the person (i.e flirting at the bar, making chit-chat in the coffee shop, have made formal introduction in some other way) it's best to just keep the comments to yourself unless you are actively seeking a chance to engage that person in extended friendship.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
You can say anything to a woman as long as it's said correctly. Eye contact and a slight smile do wonders. As a rule don't compliment very attractive fashionable women on their feet. DO compliment a an average looking girl with mediocre fashion sense with friends who don't know what a pedicure is. Two extremes. See the difference? The hottie is used to guys complimenting her on everything "nice earlobes" bet you she's heard it three times tonight. Save the physical compliments for when she's naked. The pedicure for her is a after thought. These women don't get them for guys...they get them to compete with other girls. A guy complimenting her on it comes of as weird with no game. The average chic actually made a strong effort to get the pedicure. Judging by her friends it;'s not the standard. So she'll appreciate the attention and the compliment.
Risky stuff either way. What's the point in complimenting her if it doesn't make her feel good? Worst case scenario uncomfortable. Every chic i've dated has had a guy compliment them on their feet randomly and each one was weirded out about it. Just my experience. If Brad Pitt complimented them though it'd be a different story of course.
Posted by Diabolicus (Member # 7743) on :
Good point, but even the really attractive girls as you say, will respond to casual compliments if handled properly. Make an effort to talk to her about anything really, appeal to her intellect first, and not just her overall aesthetic. If you think things are going well, and you're currently on friendly terms it may not hurt to compliment her on a nice pedicure or whatever. Yes, she got it to compete with other girls, but as a rule most people probably haven't noticed it (besides those other girls). I guess you gotta use some judgment on the situation.
As a rule of thumb though, don't just go around telling people that they're hot. If you really think you got a chance at "picking her up", and given the right social setting you may just surprise her with a curveball remark on her "nice feet".
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: What's the point in complimenting her if it doesn't make her feel good?
Just my experience. If Brad Pitt complimented them though it'd be a different story of course.
and......this is why i don't give compliments or even talk to women much anymore. you either have be really good looking or really smart to even talk to them, let alone get away with compliments like that. i'm neither of those things, so why do it???
Posted by Diabolicus (Member # 7743) on :
blackHxC88 ...
You really don't need to be the "full package deal", just to talk and meet women. 89.765% of the time, a smile, eye contact and a confident attitude will do you wonders. If you are perceived by the fairer sex to be just a normal and friendly guy then you won't really have a problem.
The catch is not to pour all over whoever you're trying to talk to with desperate compliments and "you're hot"s. Moderation and a bit of a silver tongue go a long way.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by Diabolicus: 89.765%
how dare you bring math into this discussion Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88:
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: What's the point in complimenting her if it doesn't make her feel good?
Just my experience. If Brad Pitt complimented them though it'd be a different story of course.
and......this is why i don't give compliments or even talk to women much anymore. you either have be really good looking or really smart to even talk to them, let alone get away with compliments like that. i'm neither of those things, so why do it???
Taken out of context. I'm an advocate for talking with women. Talk talk talk. Listen listen listen. Challenge them. Tease them. Make them laugh. Make them smile. But don't supplicate. Compliment when they need it. That takes a crap load of social intelligence to get that. To be able to read a woman so well that you can fix her mood with a compliment. Hot chics...compliment them on their personality/intelligence. Average/homely chics compliment them on their physical beauty. It;s better of course if the compliment is sincere.
A compliment on her feet has to be said as a joke. But better said when you're intimate. Would you tell a girl you haven't seen naked "nice boobs"? But when she's naked...it works!
I'd say nice feet with a disapproving look as a joke. "nice feet....for a country girl" "cute toes....they're not all weird and gangly". Be funny with it....otherwise you'll be seen as a weird foot fetish dude with little game. No bueno.
A sense of humor and a sense of timing work wonders. There is no perfect formula, every woman is different, has different experiences, baggage, sensitivities. Some gorgeous girls are insecure, and some average girls just angry, so you have to feel things out a little. Experience, and a little cockiness helps. A silly line that works for me is....gorgeous shoes, did those feet come with them? Don't take yourself too seriously, laugh, smile, have fun, but don't be rude, life is too short, and there is another pair of pretty feet right around the corner, just be ready!
Posted by Diabolicus (Member # 7743) on :
Gotta agree with GQ (again), and even Royals.
"Cockiness" works as long as you present it as a joking cockiness, be confident but don't be a D-bag. It's a hard balance to find, but the more you go out and meet people the easier it becomes. Just try to remember that every guy brings something to the table, including yourself. Make sure you know what it is that you got, and exploit it. If you got a sense of humour, use that.
Just takes a bit of trial and error. If you get shot down, so what? Try and try again.
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
quote:Originally posted by dougiezerts: Have any of you ever complimented a woman on her feet? I try to do this whenever the situation is appropriate. Usually, I'll say, "You've got nice feet," "You look cute barefooted," or "Nice toenails," if they're painted.
I like the idea of that--especially, "You look cute barefooted." But I haven't had the opportunity to say it. I also wonder how it would be taken, and how self-conscious I would feel about saying it. What kind of response would I have ready, or have to come up with on the spot, if she asks me why I would even think to say something like that?
I guess I could just say, "Well, you just do, that's all." Or "Well, lots of girls can't pull off that look, but you make it work."
I guess one need not necessarily spill that he has a foot fetish in this case, which could be embarrassing or more revealing than one wants to be at the time.
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
quote:Originally posted by Diabolicus: Depends, as long as the situation is socially appropriate and we have both already engages in mutual small talk and chit-chat, then occasionally I may make a remark that her feet are in good shape.
I will not however randomly make observational compliments on a persons look out of the blue, and for no other reason then to make the remark for my own personal satisfaction.
In most cases, unless you are hanging out with the person (i.e flirting at the bar, making chit-chat in the coffee shop, have made formal introduction in some other way) it's best to just keep the comments to yourself unless you are actively seeking a chance to engage that person in extended friendship.
I agree with this. But at the same time, there's always the hope that somehow making such a comment/compliment could be an entree into further flirtation, which could be beneficial.
But I agree that to just throw it out there could be construed as a bit weird.
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
Coincidentally, there's a girl at my job who works different hours in a different department, whom I think is really really cute. I've made a little small talk with her before and been friendly (and received friendly small talk back, too). She nearly always wears casual clothes and flip-flops to work, and I have done my best to catch glances at her feet whenever possible. They are really cute! Very sweet looking toes, nice arches, smooth skin...
Anyway, tonight I was eating my dinner in our break room, and she came in to wash some coffee cups in our sink. We said hi to each other and I made a comment about how she was wearing a lot of red today (her pants and her sweatshirt, both). My view of her feet was blocked by the end of the table, so I leaned to the side a bit (not concealing it) and said something about, "Now what about the shoes?--Nope! Flip-flops!"
There really wasn't an entree to saying anything about "cute feet"--we're really acquaintances more than friends, and I don't want to get seen as the weird complimenter at work. So I didn't say anything about her feet, but I did talk a little about flip-flops and how I almost always wear them, and used to wear them to work until last year when I got a motorcycle and now I wear boots all the time. She didn't really delve into that aspect of the flip-flop conversation with me, though. She was kind of on her way out of the office for the night, I think, having stayed past time as it was.
I have to say, I really wouldn't mind going out with this girl, but I haven't had the kind of fortunate run-in with her where I felt it would be appropriate to ask her on a date. (Plus, I've always been kind of the let-it-happen type of guy, and only on rare occasions did the assertive-thing.)
*sigh* I dunno...
Posted by ROYALS22262 (Member # 2681) on :
Pjay, if you really want something, go after it, don't be shy. Girls, for the most part like to be complimented, and like favorable attention. Too many good opportunities pass us by because we allow it. You can simply tell her that seeing her makes your day, and then go into some job talk, get her comfortable with you. Talk about what you may have in common, a shared responsibility, or something where you can get her to talk and open up to you a little bit. You don't want to look like you are hitting on her at work, but just a sort of getting to know you vibe. See if there is any way you could go to lunch together, and then pick it up from there. There is no charge for just being friendly and nice! GO FOR IT!!!
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
I appreciate the well-meaning advice. I don't mean to make it sound like I'm an oaf and stumblebum when it comes to talking with women. I do have the same "fear-of-rejection" that is common no matter who ya are, though. And sometimes I end up running at the mouth, which is tough to control and I have to work at it really hard.
The main problem with trying to court this girl is that I see her very rarely. I'm actually lucky to spend 45 seconds around her in a given week. Then occasionally we'll be at the same meeting or something (not a place where we can chat, though).
Complicating matters, another friend of mine from work (who no longer works there) is a lesbian woman, and back when she worked here, we both put our heads together to try to figure out whether this cute girl, Erika, is a lesbian or not!
Seriously, my gay friend thought she picked up a vibe (because Erika has a bit of a tomboyish look to her, though not what you'd call "butch") that she might be gay! I'm not all that good at feeling that stuff out, so I had to admit I wasn't sure either! To make it even stranger, my last girlfriend had short hair when I met her, and she worked at a health food grocery store and was trying to be vegan, and at the time I hit on her, I didn't know for sure that she was not a lesbian, either! (Of course, the answer was strongly NO. )
Posted by Mr. Mule (Member # 35514) on :
I have always found it much easier to compliment a woman on her feet if she opens the door first. But I think that only happens when a woman enjoys showing her feet. The first date with my current girlfriend I remember we went out to dinner and she made a comment about her shoes and her pedicure how she wanted to looked good for our date. I told her that the shoes were sexy and the pedicure was too. I knew right then that she would not be creeped out if I told her that I was attracted to women's feet. This could be a whole new topic but it is great when a woman acknowledges the sexual power her feet have over some people.
Posted by skaramunga (Member # 11914) on :
I have yet to walk up to a any one girl and complement her only on the looks of her feet without even knowing her.
Even than, even if I'm friends with the girl, it pretty much NEVER comes out of my mouth, not unless they try to address the issue with me..even then I'll play vague.
If I'm interested in her, it's just waaaaay too risky to say something like that and have her pass any sort of judgment on me without even knowing me...or even worse pegging me with one of those "oh the foot guy who I met tonight" or "the kid who likes feet" because girls are SUPER FAST to judge as we all know. And a lot of girls are just way to immature and self conscious to even appreciate a well placed foot comment, when we mean no harm.
And I guarantee you, even if, even if the situation goes well, she laughs, blah blah blah blah, doesn't "seem to be" freaked out, it will STILL be in the back of her mind especially if you say it the first time you meet her.
Don't get me wrong, if I'm attracted to her, we click, she's hot and she has great feet, I will be jumping for joy. BUT I won't tell her that I like her feet until I know that she's comfortable with me and being around me. Sometimes I don't even do anything foot related the very first time we have sex. I'll let it build up and then i'll let it all come out maybe like around the third or fourth time we have sex. Then, ill start to you know, place the foot in my mouth, lick the feet, kiss, touch...you get the picture.
Can't reveal all your cards in one shot...
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
Thanks for all your thoughts. Like I said, I only give a foot-compliment if I feel the situation is appropriate. So far, it's worked out well--no negative results.
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
Keep your eyes/ears attune to her subtleness; Take a little time--not too much-- to assessed a woman's ways; Use some savvy; Have flair; Incorporate jokes; Make her smile or laugh; Be natural with your delivery; and if you mess up, don't sweat it, learn from the setback and move on to the next one. I know, a lot to pull together in a short time, but it's GAME TIME. Lights, Camera and Action! It's like playing quarterback or point guard in the big game; lots of pressure, only a few seconds to decide what to do and she is looking right at you. Again, if things don't go the way you want, learn to shake it off (,adjust) and step-up to the next opportunity. Remember, women can be forgiving, if you are sincere with your efforts.
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