I have an interesting question that could develop into a good discussion. I've thought about this for quite some time now.
So, I am in a serious relationship right, amazing girlfriend who I definitely plan on marrying one day if all continues to go well. I am 26, she's 24, so there is no rush. On top of our great relationship, she is down right sexy/cute, amazing body, big boobs, very much in shape and has the perfect feet and soles. So no doubt I have the whole package. BUT...this is where it gets interesting...I have a major foot fetish, although I do not consider myself obsessed with her feet, but I give it a fair share of attention (mostly due to the fact she likes attention to her feet with massages, gentle rubs/tickles, etc) as well as a lot of attention to the rest of her body. So I do not always have her feet before sex, or even on a daily basis. HOWEVER, sometimes I crave for another woman's feet. No person in particular, but for example when she has girlfriends over, especially if they are staying the night and some of them are also very attractive girls with nice feet, I'd definitely make an effort to catch a glimpse of their feet, bare soles, etc. So from time to time, I thought I would not mind if I had the chance to indulge into another woman's feet. However, I have no intentions of fondling another woman's body, kissing her, having sex, blowjobs, whatever sexual act, just want her feet in my face. So let's make a scenario....let's say I pick up a prostitute (legally in Vegas haha!) and take her back but all I do is have her rub her feet all over my face. I do not even need or want a footjob. And that is all that happens. Would any of you consider that cheating? or is it harmless? I am not sure yet myself.
Posted by -cfg- (Member # 13863) on :
Simple answer. If she knows about it and is cool with it then it isn't cheating. If you have to sneak and do it behind her back then it is cheating.
Posted by Elvzz (Member # 14178) on :
cfg I think u hit the pencil on the head and made it disappear!
"play at ur own risk"
[ June 30, 2009, 02:16 PM: Message edited by: Elvzz ]
Posted by footster008 (Member # 26335) on :
girls will think thats cheating if your thinking about marrying this girl, its not worth it. keep it in your pants bro
Posted by Keyfeet (Member # 27313) on :
what happens in vegas, stays in vegas.
but honestly, every guy in a relationship thinks about other women, its natural. Especially with young people like yourself. But why would you even consider acting on it? You have a beautiful woman that wants to be with you.
When it comes down to it, whether or not its cheating, if you really love her as much as you say you do, and you were to do those simple acts, you would feel guilty as hell. And honestly, I think that afterward, you would spend days, weeks, months feeling deep regret about it. Those thoughts happen. Just fight them.
So heres the cure. Most people have to . But you can actually have sex with your girl.
Posted by Danielle Moore (Member # 34633) on :
If she doesn't know and if she wouldn't approve, then it is cheating. On the other hand, you could say that going to a strip joint is cheating too, or for that matter, slow dancing with another girl.
Each relationship is different and you and your better half need to set the boundaries. If she thinks it's ok for you to go to a strip bar and get a lap dance, then having someone put their feet in your face is nothing and I would say go for it. If she hates you looking, thinking or touching other women, then it IS CHEATING to her and that's what matters and you need to respect the way she feels. A relationship is about trust and respect. Respecting what your partner thinks is cheating is all part of it.
My advice to you, talk to her. Tell her your fantasy and see if she is willing to participate.
D xoxo
Posted by The Lum (Member # 34830) on :
If u gotta ask then it's cheating haha. If there is any reasons you can think of for yes it is then yeah it is.
Posted by Gameon (Member # 20877) on :
It would be cheating. Talk to her instead, it would be wrong not to. What if you found out she was going behind your back to prossies to get her feet rubbed?
What if she is a pros---Oh nevermind that comment!
Posted by Mona (Member # 8351) on :
quote:Originally posted by -cfg-: Simple answer. If she knows about it and is cool with it then it isn't cheating. If you have to sneak and do it behind her back then it is cheating.
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[ August 20, 2009, 05:47 PM: Message edited by: Mona ]
Posted by curly09 (Member # 33380) on :
what happens in vegas, stays in vegas.except herpies.lol(anyone see the hangover?)when i had my last gf before she knew about my love for feet she wouldn't have give two shits whether or not i was chasing other girls feet,she would have been pissed off if i went out and fucked.But when i did tell her and she was cool with it all other chickys feet were off limits.
Posted by Fwrinkledsoles (Member # 101) on :
Hell, before I married my now wife. I told her about how I like women feet and I told her parents too. They said, her dad said, I was normal! I guess because I told the truth. Now, I have know problems checking out other women feet and she aloud me to give other women foot massagers, pedicure and take picture for our enjoyment. Be honest first in this so called dishonest American society. It works!
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
quote:Originally posted by The Lum: If u gotta ask then it's cheating haha. If there is any reasons you can think of for yes it is then yeah it is.
I agree. I suspect that you already know the answer. I think that you are asking the question just to see if there is somebody who can talk you into changing your mind.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
My advice bro, intercourse is cheating, all else is grey.
Feet in your face ? Go for it, its harmless. Dont tell her. Or as Danielle said if you can discuss with her and she agrees then better; all with a clear conscience.
For me feet in the face doesnt do it. I need a FJ for satisfaction, but as far as I'm concerned what you have proposed IS NOT cheating. period !!
Posted by Kwiksand1 (Member # 2390) on :
Been married for 10 years. I think about other women's feet, too! That's why I LOVE this site so much, becuase there is no shortage of awesome women out there that are willing to share their feet! I could never cheat on my wife, but looking at a pretty girl's feet on the web and having a wank is harmless (at least in my mind). Smelling, sniffing, sucking another women's feet would be cheating (IMHO).
Posted by nineone5 (Member # 13245) on :
Ha,
Well thank you all for your comments, they were all very interesting, mostly stating it would be cheating if I never consented with my gf, and few said it's basically harmless. Having this foot fetishism is definitely different, because any other person who does not have a foot fetish and would say "feet in your face??? how is that cheating" because in their world cheating would consist basically of kissing, sex, bj's maybe even cuddling. However I do see where most of you guys come from in the aspect that it would be considered cheating on the basis that I would be doing it without her consent and even though it is just feet in the face, however would still be a sexually arousing. With that being said, i definitely know my girlfriend would not be cool with it, she can be the jealous type at times. So for now these websites will be suffice but at least I don't have to worry about temptations because it is not like if a girl who has the hots for me will put her feet in my face, haha (not like she'd know I have a foot fetish!!).
But you know what else, even though I've told my girlfriend to keep my foot fetishism between us only (Fwrinkledsoles, I can't believe you told your wife's parents!!!) I do wonder sometimes what it would be if she ever told some of her closest friends. I mean her girlfriends/roomates from college (I've developed a close relationship with them as well), are so DAMN FINE with amazing feet and they tend to be a bit flirty at times, especially with me and especially when we go out drinking/partying (that my gf doesn't mind because they are her best friends and she knows it wouldn't lead to anything). So if they knew about my foot fetish, I bet they would in some way tease me with their feet and that could be fun, haha! I remember one time, we were all getting ready to go out, and I was good to go, sitting on he floor chit chatting while waiting for them, and the one girl planted her feet on my lap, close but not too close to my crotch area and I almost keeled over, haha! Anyhow, thanks for the discussion!
Posted by octoberbaseball (Member # 20977) on :
Any final decision? Are you going to indulge yourself? Talk with the gf about it? Outcome?
Posted by nineone5 (Member # 13245) on :
Naw, for now I am going to stick with my girlfriend's feet and not indulge into another woman's feet. It is not worth the risk and I know she would not be cool with it because she knows obviously it would sexually arouse me, even though it is just feet in my face. But I am curious to see how she'd react with another woman's feet in my presence, so I am thinking next time her friends are in town, I will offer a foot massage, and see what she will have to say! I will get a better sense of her opinion then!
Posted by clifbake (Member # 8976) on :
I would say do whatever you can to get what you need in this life. I know that most relationships don't last forever, especially when you are young. I was in a similar situation. My fiancée and I created Abigailsfeet.com. we thought we would get married and live happily together forever. I loved to look at other womens feet but felt guilty about it. Well we finally split after 5 years and now regret feeling guilty. Do what you need to do life is short and unpredictable .
Posted by oscarthemonkey (Member # 1692) on :
quote:Originally posted by -cfg-: Simple answer. If she knows about it and is cool with it then it isn't cheating. If you have to sneak and do it behind her back then it is cheating.
Cfg is right. However- you should not feel bad about looking at other womens feet. I like to look at the menu- but always eat at home. My wife fully expects me to be looking at feet when we are out in any crowd.I think over the past decade she has come to appreciate the fact that I only see one out of a few hundred women on average that have feet as hot as hers. And-if you are open to her about it- maybe she and you could do the thing with a girl in Vegas together- which would be even more fun.
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. But you can actually have sex with your girl.
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