Ive had more than a few times where Ive opened up about my foot fetish and been put down, insulted, laughed at and gossiped about. Even still Im straight forward about my fetish. As far as Im concerned if someone doesnt want to understand it and is keen on believing that its "not normal" then I really dont need them. Most of the time when I was upfront with it they were cool with it and its led to some interesting experiences what do the rest of you guys and gals think is the best way to delve into the foot fetish topic with women?
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
This is a topic that has come up frequently and I understand why. Certainly, you want to sexually satisfy yourself through your favorite outlet, feet. Here's the short answer: Keep your mouth shut.
Having said that, lets try to salve some of your disappointment. Being as how you have a passion for a very unusual - and not typically thought of as sexual - part of the body you are quite vulnerable to the perception that you are some kind of disgusting perv.
Here's the advice. It is fine to be "straight-forward" about your fetish, especially at the beginning of any kind of relationship so you don't have to lie about it should someone ask you. Don't instantly volunteer such a piece of information about yourself (e.g. "Hi, my name is Racnor and I'd love to sniff and suck your toes at your earliest convenience".)
The best approach is to stay mum about it. Let people - especially women - become comfortable with you. Let them see how you function in a wide variety of situations and learn how "normal" you actually are. Your aberration will be much more palatable, even interestingly eccentric.
As I've mentioned before, I much prefer to show my lovers how much I like their feet rather than talk/tell about it. That has never gotten a "boo" from my audience.
Posted by Danielle Moore (Member # 34633) on :
Great points ToeTapper!
Here is the way that my manfriend introduced me to it. When we first met and prior to me knowing ANYTHING about a foot fetish, we were doing the old "Get to know each other game" over dinner. I asked him a simple question, what part of the female body do you find sexy? To be honest I was expecting him to say Ass, Breasts, Eyes etc. His reply was simple and yet perfect, "I like a Woman to be a Woman and by that I mean, I like Woman's legs and feet". He went on to explain that he loved the image of a woman wearing nylons, high heels etc and that to him it symbolized an intelligent sexy Woman.
After that, he took things slow and started to romanticize his foot fetish. He would give me long, sensual foot massages, place gentle kisses on my feet and told me things like, here is a kiss for your big toe, now you can walk on my love all day.
His romantic approach to his foot fetish lifestle made it easy for me to fall in love with the idea and open to exploring a new world.
The rest is what they say is History....Here I am :-)
I hope this helps,
Dani xoxo
Posted by octoberbaseball (Member # 20977) on :
I would say don't openly say I have a foot fetish as Toetapper says. I've seen this topic come up so many times. I would just say I like a girl who has pretty feet (if ever asked). Or if you get close to her offer a foot massage, if she says yes and it feels good then there is possibly room for advancing if she says eww feet are gross, then odds are she won't be turned on that you have a foot fetish. To- Dani, that's awesome that he kissed your big toe and said that, it really shows more romance than foot fetish. Great stuff, maybe one day I'll use that.
Posted by feet-e-zine (Member # 1966) on :
The guy on "Bachelorette" is NOT a good role model...do NOT follow his example...
Just a thought...
Posted by Mona (Member # 8351) on :
quote:Originally posted by feet-e-zine: The guy on "Bachelorette" is NOT a good role model...do NOT follow his example...
Just a thought...
I would imagine the producers are encouraging his behavior, much the way i have heard reality show producers on set regularly instigate the drama between the people on screen.
I personally don't recommend the "subtle foot comment" idea.That wouldn't be my thing at all.Develop a relationship with mutual interest first and then just be open about it.
Posted by Tiny Dave (Member # 30771) on :
When I watch movies with a girl on the couch I ask them if I can rum their feet.
And they always let me.
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
Toetapper has given the best advice, IMO.
Let a woman get comfortable being around you and let her develop trust in you, rather than volunteering any information about your foot fetish. Then, when you're in the heat of the moment, let your actions do the talking rather than with words, trying to explain how you're attracted to her feet.
Posted by babinsky2 (Member # 1297) on :
quote:Originally posted by Toetapper:
The best approach is to stay mum about it. Let people - especially women - become comfortable with you. Let them see how you function in a wide variety of situations and learn how "normal" you actually are. Your aberration will be much more palatable, even interestingly eccentric.
Yes....You nailed it that time!! Ya gotta ask yourself ; Is it o.k. to say to a woman when you're first getting to know each other, "...can we fuck now, or what?"..
Posted by A&F_FootDude_05 (Member # 2999) on :
I don't have the best experience with women lol but I do have some wisdom to pass through.....we see feet as something sexual there's no way around it....but feet don't always have to be sexual....such as women spend so much time on them they should be appreciated or something like that... I feel some sort of reason needs to follow the fetish...of course I wouldn't advise using the F----- word.
Posted by GimmeFeet (Member # 13817) on :
Spotlight said it best.
But, props to Toetapper for his brilliant post!
Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
Foot massages are generally loved by most girls. Once you are known to give good ones, then you can "playfully" mention that you like feet. Just say "like" not the word fetish because fetish makes people think of S&M.
The other option is to do what I do and just say it and mention you run a site about it. Sure I get teased, but the girls tend to ask me for foot rubs instead of the other way around.
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