Ok guys, I know some of you offer great advice so here it goes. I'm dating this chik, I'm not 100% into her. She is a great person and she offers alot of good. We are compatable but her feet are ugly, I can barely bring myself to look at them. (previous post)
She has a hot flat mate, who is her sister in law. She is really pretty and has cute feet, I have a little crush on her !!
Question from you guys; my strategy ? Do I subdue my temptation and stick it out with the one I have or do I take the risk on losing both of them and my reputation if I do a sneaky one on the hot flat mate?
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
maybe pulling a sneaky one on the hot flat mate is a way to let the other one go on her own. you wanna get caught heh.
if sticking to your girl is not an option because her feet are unbearable, my advice is to tell her straight up that you want to move on to other things and break up. its not fair to either one of you to continue.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
You said sis-in-law right? As in she's married to your g/f's bro?? Which equals her unattainable. Posted by Fluffy's Kitten (Member # 34036) on :
Yeah it sounds likely like she's not available. If I were you I'd just stick it out. If you really can't stand it, then just leave the relationship unfortunately. I wouldn't go for someone else if they're taken, plus that looks really bad on your part.
Not to mention the words that'll fly..
I always think it's a bad idea to dump one, and pick another, especially if they're related, even by law.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
i don't have anything lengthy to say. you're not happy in your relationship, time to move on.
the sister-in-law is by law out of bounds. so no hope there.
but being single again, you may find another woman with the personality you like and the feet you like. so... head on out
RPM
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
No sneaking - just if you don't like your current: break up simple as - might be a BIT bastardy to start dating her room-mate though...
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
Guys just to reclarrify. The girl I am dating, her sister is married to the brother of her flat mate. Hence not techinaclly related.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
quote:Originally posted by ozboy: Guys just to reclarrify. The girl I am dating, her sister is married to the brother of her flat mate. Hence not techinaclly related.
Mmmm...still going to be messy; creates a lot of ill-will on both sides.
I can envision a scenario that would work in your favor but the girls would no longer be flat-mates.
Posted by Athena K (Member # 33809) on :
i agree with whats been said - its not fair to your girlfriend if you keep being with her coz you feel like you should - you deserve better than a half arsed relationship and so does she.
as for the flat mate - no-go zone. if for nothing else itd be really awkward to stumble into the kitchen one morniing after incredible albeit noisy sex, and run into your ex. :/
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
thanks for the clarification Ozboy. however... Athena brings a great point to the surface. and i'll second that with one other thing... gals talk! they're flatmates... they'll know quick fast!! if the weren't flat-mates, maybe with time inbetween... you could sorta pull it off.. hwoever.. ill-feelings will come about. sorry.
RPM
p.s. now.. if you broke up.. and your ex moved on to someone else.. and time passed.. and you and the flat-mate picked up a relationship.. that could almost fly (assuming the flat mate was on her way out to her own pad at the time too)
Posted by toeringguy (Member # 32356) on :
pulling the roommate switch, sounds like it would make a good Seinfeld episode.
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