Do you care what others think about your gf? Do you judge others that may have fat gfs? My gf has put on a decent amount of weight in the last year. I have found myself worrying about what others think about me being with a girl overweight. I am working on net letting this effect me since I still find her pretty and she will one day lose the weight. I just hate myself for worrying about what others may think. That is bs and beauty is skin deep. She loves having her feet worshiped and loves teasing me with them. We get along well, but I am having issues with the weight gain. I told her and she became very upset which I would expect. We are ok now but I was just curious what you guys think.
Posted by Mr.Papers (Member # 3205) on :
fuck that don't care what people think about her. it's what makes you happy. Some people can be very judgemental if you love her it shouldn't be a problem
Posted by charlotte (Member # 33673) on :
Is there a reason for the weight gain raja? Maybe you could start a healthy regime together, sometimes we need someone to help us to lose the weight, but it is the person who counts. My motto is love me for me or don't bother. I am sure that if your friends know your gf as you do they accept her for who she is.
quote:Originally posted by Mr.Papers: fuck that don't care what people think about her. it's what makes you happy. Some people can be very judgemental if you love her it shouldn't be a problem
Amen... Enough said here. I totally agree. Happiness is key to everything.
Posted by toeringguy (Member # 32356) on :
they don't lose the weight, they only gain more as time goes on, but she sounds great if she's into having her feet worshipped.
Posted by Elvzz (Member # 14178) on :
Yes I do - without even knowing my secret which is not so much a secret, I dig it when my boyz compliment my girls on their toes.
I recently started dating Mika, what's not to like!
Posted by shook (Member # 12484) on :
Maybe trying going out and doing active things with her, go for walks, go to the gym, do things together that will maybe shed off a few pounds.
As for what other people think? Fuck them.
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
i dont worry either about what others think of my wife. i will admit to wondering what they think, but if they dont like her.. *shrugs.. their loss. if you are having issues with her weight then thats a different issue. hey.. maybe you dont find yourself as attracted to since she put on the pounds and honestly, personality only goes so far. ok, i know that sounds callous and shallow, but honestly.. if it was all about personality, how come no one wants to hear that their blind is.. really nice and has a great personality. there is definitely a certain amount of physical attraction that just has to be there.
Posted by Keyfeet (Member # 27313) on :
Dont worry about what people think. The people who matter will get to know her for who she really is. They will get to know her personality. And IMO personality goes waaay further than looks. And you will be spending waay more time with her than you will with any of your critics.
And as for the weight gain. There super simple things you do. You can get a couple of weights (I use 20lb weights, but if your just starting out, you may want something lighter) and a workout dvd (I like the Biggest Loser dvd myself) from the store. Play sports on nice days (I like tennis, but you can find the sport that you enjoy, maybe ultimate frisbee?) and simply get out of house for a nice walk together (if you adopt a dog, you will always have to walk it). You can also do simple things, for example, if you read a book, you can burn more than double the caleries you would watching television or using the computer. But the key is eating right, you can simply go to your local bookstore and get a cookbook on healthy cooking (I like gordon ramsay's healthy appetite). And before you know it, the pounds will shed really quickly. But you need to continue with this if you want to lose FAT.
Posted by raja (Member # 6573) on :
"Bottom fuckin line...Are her feet as nice as they always were?yes or no? "
Yes her feet are perfect. I am very attracted to her even with the weight. She is pretty and I do feel that personality trumps looks. Spending time with someone you enjoy being with is better than looking good and not enjoying their company. You guys are right and that I should say fuck everyone who may not approve. Thanks for the advice.
Posted by girlyfootlvr (Member # 27325) on :
You want our opinion... we want her photos. You may cover her face, but we need to see if she's over weight, or not. More importantly, serveral shots of her Feet...
Without pix, this thread is useless... Posted by Eliza Durden (Member # 22995) on :
quote:Originally posted by Spotlight: Bottom fuckin line...Are her feet as nice as they always were?yes or no?
I think the "Bottom fuckin line" is .... Do you love her?
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
They don't know her like you know her. Are you still as attracted to her now as before? Thats a problem if you're not. I'm not in a relationship now, but I know it's important to look good for your significant other. If she's just your gf now whats going to happen 5 years down the line?
This is your shot at leadership. Seize the opportunity to get yourselves both in shape. Both of you hop on diets. Both of you workout. This can be used as a reason for both of you to get even closer. Sign up at the local gym together. This establishes a strong precedent in your relationship. "When one person has a problem, we have a problem and we get closer as a result" handle things that way and not only will you have a hot in shape gf, but the two of you together will be unstopable!
GQguy
Posted by Michael P (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by raja: Do you care what others think about your gf? Do you judge others that may have fat gfs? My gf has put on a decent amount of weight in the last year. I have found myself worrying about what others think about me being with a girl overweight. I am working on net letting this effect me since I still find her pretty and she will one day lose the weight. I just hate myself for worrying about what others may think. That is bs and beauty is skin deep. She loves having her feet worshiped and loves teasing me with them. We get along well, but I am having issues with the weight gain. I told her and she became very upset which I would expect. We are ok now but I was just curious what you guys think.
seriously dude why the hell would you be worried about what people think of your girl? if you don't mind her extra pounds why would you care about other people?
my dream is to find a woman that i think is beautiful but everybody else thinks is disgusting, that way i will own her and she will worship the ground i walk on
not possible because i only like the best looking girls and they always have guys kissing their ass Posted by footster008 (Member # 26335) on :
i cant stand fat people dump that bitch hit the gym and learn how to eat right
Posted by justdaone (Member # 16096) on :
She is into what you like and you seem to love her. Who cares what other people think. I also look at it as, would you want her thinking of what others thought of YOU?
Posted by Feeties (Member # 10561) on :
quote:Originally posted by footster008: i cant stand fat people dump that bitch hit the gym and learn how to eat right
Shut the hell up, I can't stand IMMATURE people. I'm sure you're hella far from perfect, my friend. Being overweight doesn't always have to do with food. Most of the time it doesn't.
Posted by curly09 (Member # 33380) on :
if you do love that girl dont let her go, it will get to you further down the track.if shes got hot feet and pleases you with them,then stick with her.it just means you will be her exercise buddy.but on the bright side you will get to smell those sweaty socks after working out.
Posted by Michael P (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by Feeties:
Being overweight doesn't always have to do with food. Most of the time it doesn't. [/QB]
actually yeah food is to blame most of the time
it takes calories to add weight
Posted by Jak (Member # 7343) on :
It only matters what you think, and from the sound of it you're not thinking too fondly of her right now because of that weight gain. I'm the type of person that believes you need to be happy and you have to look out for yourself first. You said she's your girlfriend so you're not married, if it bothers you that much, leave her. Nobody should ever feel like they're settling for whatever reason. At the same time she deserves someone who isn't going to have a problem with her weight if she wants to keep it. If you really do love her though, weight can always be lost, just support her and she could possibly lose it all and be back to the way you want her to be.
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
quote:Originally posted by Eliza Durden:
quote:Originally posted by Spotlight: Bottom fuckin line...Are her feet as nice as they always were?yes or no?
I think the "Bottom fuckin line" is .... Do you love her?
Well fucking said Eliza!
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
I understand what your going through Raja. My girl has recently started putting on the pounds...which bothers me to a certain degree. Call me shallow, don't give a fuck. The reason why it bothers me is she will sit there and say "I'm so fat" blah blah blah but yet will not do any exercise...
So when footster said he hates fat people, I do as well. Yes we could start the debate on how not ALL fat people are fat due to their over eating and its really due to genetics/medical reason but for the most part like Mike said its due to people overeating on bad foods. My best friend is almost 300 lbs, and its not muscle. I'm helping him to lose the weight so he can avoid health problems and just generally enjoy life. He has lost 25 pounds in 2 months from going to the gym with me and his fiance is jumping his bones now more then ever! Not like they weren't having sex before but ever since his appearance started changing for the better his fiance reacted positively to it.
Sorry for the long winded response fellas I'm trying not to come off as a shallow prick that only likes skinny chicks but I am being logical,hell realistic even. Not a single one of you can sit there at your computer and honestly with a clear sober mind type that if you started dating a pretty healthy girl,and she started going downhill in the weight department that you wouldn't be a bit concerned as to how to be sexually attracted to her still or be worried like Raja is. Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
Sam Kinison put it this something like this...
You marry a girl and she looks great. Every year she puts on 5lbs. Nothing you notice at first, but then after 10 years you realized you married her mom! OH OOOOOOOOOOOH!!!!!!!
Posted by Mr.Papers (Member # 3205) on :
quote:Originally posted by LeDaemon: Sam Kinison put it this something like this...
You marry a girl and she looks great. Every year she puts on 5lbs. Nothing you notice at first, but then after 10 years you realized you married her mom! OH OOOOOOOOOOOH!!!!!!!
lmao it's funny because while reading what you said I was picturing my gf and her turning into her mom Posted by Michael P (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: I understand what your going through Raja. My girl has recently started putting on the pounds...which bothers me to a certain degree. Call me shallow, don't give a fuck. The reason why it bothers me is she will sit there and say "I'm so fat" blah blah blah but yet will not do any exercise...
So when footster said he hates fat people, I do as well. Yes we could start the debate on how not ALL fat people are fat due to their over eating and its really due to genetics/medical reason but for the most part like Mike said its due to people overeating on bad foods. My best friend is almost 300 lbs, and its not muscle. I'm helping him to lose the weight so he can avoid health problems and just generally enjoy life. He has lost 25 pounds in 2 months from going to the gym with me and his fiance is jumping his bones now more then ever! Not like they weren't having sex before but ever since his appearance started changing for the better his fiance reacted positively to it.
Sorry for the long winded response fellas I'm trying not to come off as a shallow prick that only likes skinny chicks but I am being logical,hell realistic even. Not a single one of you can sit there at your computer and honestly with a clear sober mind type that if you started dating a pretty healthy girl,and she started going downhill in the weight department that you wouldn't be a bit concerned as to how to be sexually attracted to her still or be worried like Raja is.
100% truth right here
and like laedaemon's post about sam kinison, i remember in high school every chick i liked had a fat mom so it kinda makes me worry
a lot of chicks get into a relationship and no longer worry about attracting a man because they already have one
Posted by AZFootPerv (Member # 34097) on :
Has her weight gain been rapid? If so, have her get a thyroid screening. I put on about 100 lbs. in one year and it turned out I was hypothyroid. I was also always cold (it's 115 here in the summer!) and I was always tired no matter how much sleep I had. Once I started meds the weight came off quick.
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