I recently was dating a girl. She was a really nice girl and had some good character qualities. But I ended it because she didnt have nice feet and she was a bit fat. I feel in my heart that I just couldnt committ to her as she didnt have the 'right' kind of feet and toes. I would always be looking elsewhere and the jacking off to youtube would never cease.
Do you think I've done the right thing ? Have I let feet unduely influence my life and prevent me from moving on to be with a nice person ?
Posted by ct_feet (Member # 6757) on :
quote:Originally posted by ozboy: I feel in my heart that I just couldnt committ to her as she didnt have the 'right' kind of feet and toes. I would always be looking elsewhere and the jacking off to youtube would never cease.
Do you think I've done the right thing ? Have I let feet unduely influence my life and prevent me from moving on to be with a nice person ?
Some people might consider it shallow and selfish but from my point of view it was the right thing. I was married to a woman that didn't do foot play at all and it was very frustrating. Never again! I am currently without a girlfriend but in my search I make it a point to let them know up front that feet are a major part of me. I always ask if they have good looking feet. At some point I will see her feet and make my own judgement. There are too many women with good looking feet that enjoy foot play to not be choosy.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
Couldnt agree more. We are both in the same boat as I too have been married and am set on finding a girl with nice feet, simply because feet mean that much to me and are a major criteria.
btw my ex had nice feet and was good with them. I think thats why I didnt want to lose that relationship ??
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
i disagree. my ex wife would have let me do anything i wanted with her feet, but unfortunately, she has some damn ugly peds. that though wasnt the reason for our divorce and no matter how gorgeous her feet were, i wouldnt even have been happy with her. conversely, my wife has some of the sexiest feet in the world but i also know that even if she didnt, our marriage would be fulfilling and happy. perhaps if my fetish were stronger, i could see equating the attractiveness of her feet with my overall attraction to her but seeing as, compared to some here, it's only moderate, i cant say i wouldnt be attracted to my wife enough to dump her if she didnt have sexy feet.
Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
You did the right thing; gotta' have the nice feet.
Posted by cs (Member # 9338) on :
Attraction and sexual compatibility is a critical aspect of any such relationship. To ignore these things may seem noble, but it's really just a recipe for failure. Last year I almost hooked up with this chick, we had similar interests and hobbies, and our personalities clicked, but she had ugly feet. She was really a sweet girl, but because her feet were ugly it made he unappealing to me. I decided it was better if we were just friends and I don't regret the decision.
Posted by Sol (Member # 2476) on :
Definitely the right thing. I've done the same in the past.
If you're not happy, you're not happy. Doesn't matter how virtuous the reason may be.
Posted by aerodrew (Member # 2682) on :
good decision without a doubt my friend!! i wont judge a womans beauty without seeing her feet.. i would be much more attracted to what society would say is an "average" looking lady with amazing feet, than a "hot" lady with ugly feet.. for the record though i married and get spoiled by my wife and her feet.. lol and i still look at other feet on the net.. lol
Posted by Girlgotsole (Member # 14405) on :
Did you say fat? Now, I will say this, fat girls? No. Not at all. That's called "doesn't take care of your body." Don't take care of your body? Probably don't take care of your feet. Don't take care of your feet? Well, then, how in the /world/ are you going to take care of me? Posted by Lyrical (Member # 6603) on :
Physical attraction may not be the only thing that one should look at but I think it is very important to be attracted to the person you are dating/courting or whatever. It does not matter if everyone thinks the person is or is not attractive but to try to date someone that you know you have no physical attraction to is not fair to yourself and not fair to her either. She deserves to have someone that is attracted to her in her life just like you deserve to have someonme that you are attracted to in yours. Believe me, there is someone out there who will think she is attractive and won't care about her feet so it's all good though it may seem hard, it is better to be honest about it without question IMO anyway!!!
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
Very well said, Lyrical!
There's no sense wasting her time, as well as your time, if you're just not into her.
In addition, don't worry about being shallow over the fact that you didn't feel her feet were attractive enough for you. There are guys out there who strictly like blondes, or brunettes, or redheads. I don't see people going off on them because of it. "Drawing the line", so to speak, only helps you as an individual. You have set boundaries for yourself over what you like and don't like, what is acceptable and what isn't acceptable. That's nothing to be ashamed about or second guess when it comes to that.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
Sound advice guys !! Cheers
Its good to tap into the fountain of wisdom on this forum !!:-)
Posted by Magic Mike (Member # 33143) on :
Ive helped people all over the world with relationships. all 50 US states except alaska and texas and most countries.there is one thing to look at when you are in a relationship. Are you happy and is she happy? You dont have to be physically attracted and be happy. However, if you are a guy who absolutely needs nice feet in the relationship, pack your bags and keep moving. If you dont think that is right, contact me and Ill help you get over the shallowness fast. There are many fish in the sea, but once you find your mermaid, the other fish are just fish...
Posted by canIsmellYourFeet (Member # 11183) on :
You did the right thing.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
Magic Mike,
Having nice feet is not just a side thing that would be a nice to have but rather, as a foot guy, is quintessential to happiness in a relationship. Its not a matter of being shallow or physical.
By way of an example would you question a gay guy as to why he is attracted to men and call him shallow for having this attraction ? Can you help the gay guy get over his 'shallowness' ?
With myself, the whole sexual energy and attraction revolves around feet. Furthermore in a sexual relationship with me, footjobs would be regular and unabaited, hence the absolute need for 'the right feet'.
I object to being labelled as 'shallow' in this regard. Feet are my bread and butter.
Posted by Magic Mike (Member # 33143) on :
Whoa oz! calm down. I was giving my opinion from my point of view. I told you, if you need nice feet in a relationship to pack your bags (As in look for another girl). Nothing harmful. I never intend to harm. You brought this thread up for peoples' opinions, so respect what some have to say.
Posted by canIsmellYourFeet (Member # 11183) on :
quote:Originally posted by Magic Mike: Whoa oz! calm down. I was giving my opinion from my point of view. I told you, if you need nice feet in a relationship to pack your bags (As in look for another girl). Nothing harmful. I never intend to harm. You brought this thread up for peoples' opinions, so respect what some have to say.
I think he was confused about your use of the word "shallowness" in your post. And I gotta admit, so am I, cause it seems to contradict everything else you said in that one post. Without that one sentence, its fine and helpful.
So are you saying its shallowness *IF* he feels its something he CAN overcome, and not shallowness if its a part of his being and can't do without? I think that's what you're getting at, but I'm not sure. Please clarify when you get the chance.
Posted by babeflover (Member # 2953) on :
Quote"Do you think I've done the right thing ?"
I have not even read the responses and i can tell you that YES, you did the right thing. the wrong thing to do would have been to stay with her, and show her, and you would have,your dissatisfaction later. you did the right thing, we(footmen)should not be with women whose feet we don't find attractive.
Posted by DaleAdam69 (Member # 27877) on :
Ozboy you did the right thing. A few years ago i dated a young blonde cutie, and she gave the best blowjobs i have ever experienced!!!! But she had bad feet and i didnt even entertain the thought of footplay with her as it would be a turn off. I ended the relationship with her soon after.
Posted by Magic Mike (Member # 33143) on :
the shallowness part was in reference to the second post where it says "some would find it shallow". If he were to think it was shallow also and wanted help to overcome it, I was willing to help.
Posted by ozboy (Member # 518) on :
No hard feelings Magic Mike, Thanks for your input.
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