Okay, so I have a classmate who I've known for about a year or so and I have no attraction to her whatsoever at all, but want to tell her about my foot fetish on a friend basis and even though I have not seen her feet I have no desire to do anything with them. What I anticipate happening is that possiblity of her letting me do stuff to her feet and I would not want to but more likely ask what I think about her feet. Is there even a point in telling her - I am pretty sure this type of question has never been posed on Wu's before....I think telling her may result in something other than the weird aspect coming up it may result in her seeing I have no attraction toward her...we are two entirely different people and everything we want in the opposite sex, we are void of...anyhow, any thoughts.
Posted by LuckyTeen (Member # 30822) on :
She's your freind, next time your having a conversation about yourself ask her if she wants to hear something personal and tell her of your foot fetish. She'll probably just think it's cool you told her that.
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
Better be careful...my wife and I were "just" close platonic friends for years before we starting dating, got engaged and married. :-)
It is VERY nice to have a true friend who's a girl to be able to discuss things with. Though we did not go into sexual details until we were considering marriage, we were both involved with our own significant other, and discussed our relationships pretty openly. Great when you've got someone fomr the "other camp" to give you perspective.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
If she is merely a friend and you don't want to pursue any deeper or more intimate relationship with her, then I would suggest that there are some things about you she doesn't NEED to know. This is especially true if she has no deeper interest in you; revealing something like this could put her in an almost defensive frame of mind - feeling the need to keep her feet covered lest it be regarded as a "come-on".
I suppose that somewhere "down the road" you could, very passingly, tell her that you are inclined to notice women's feet without mentioning the profound nature of your passion.
Just trying to pass on some wisdom from ol' Dad who said "I never regretted a thing I didn't say."
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
ok, so lets clear something up.. you are telling her why? do you typically share such personal sexual aspects of your lives with each other? if yes, then sure, this makes sense, but if you never share those kinds of details, i dont think that this would a good first... but thats just my opinion.
Posted by Toesucker85 (Member # 16795) on :
yea if ur not expecting it to go any further dont tell her.
Posted by DownUnderFeet (Member # 31117) on :
I have tried this a few times. You can, as Toetapper suggested, omit the whole sexual aspect to it but you can't expect that to get you very far.
Posted by FootLongSub Zero (Member # 19380) on :
I'd just tell her. It should be much easier to tell her because your not attracted to her. Don't build so much hype around it.
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
quote:Better be careful...my wife and I were "just" close platonic friends for years before we starting dating, got engaged and married. :-)
Very true. Women are right brainers most of the time and can become attach very quickly.
Posted by Salvy_Mic (Member # 13384) on :
I tend to be of the opinion that the vast majority of friendships between a guy and a girl come about in part because the guy has some sort of attraction to the girl. Doesn't mean you're interested in getting with her, just an attraction, if that makes any sense.
As for this particular case, I'd say that discretion is the wisest course. No matter how tight you guys are, or how much like "one of the guys" she might be to you, female friends are a completely different animal than dude friends. The reason why isn't totally clear, but fellas, you all know this to be true.
Posted by N2feet23 (Member # 28130) on :
Just tell her... say it in a fun way or just say it. I told 3 of my co-workers just because they had sexy toes. I just came out and said, you have some really pretty feet and the conversation lead to me saying I have a foot fetish... I didn't make it seem like i wanted their toes in my mouth, it was just conversation. Why are we so afraid to talk about what we like... just talk to her about it.. she is still going to be your friend... She will probably help you find some girls with sexy feet...
Posted by Elvzz (Member # 14178) on :
quote:Originally posted by Footman9:
quote:Better be careful...my wife and I were "just" close platonic friends for years before we starting dating, got engaged and married. :-)
Very true. Women are right brainers most of the time and can become attach very quickly.