NEVER say you have a foot fetish to a woman your working on getting her feet. Never do that. I mean, why should you? It just adds more thought to the idea that your into feet. More than is required. Just simply say, your a guy that really likes a girl with nice feet. When your talking, say the foot is your favorite thing about a woman, and that it's so sexy to you. Anything like that or along the lines works. No need to bring out the F E T I SH word. A lot of people seem to wonder how you should go about telling a girl your into their feet, but I for one do not recommend that. Anyone else agree?
Posted by A&F_FootDude_05 (Member # 2999) on :
I agree wholeheartedly. I have done the 'fetish' approach before and it shot right back at me in the face. Using 'fetish' is vague as it brings out different thoughts for different people, but when you describe that word like you say and say you're 'someone that like a girl with nice feet' that changes the tone and atmosphere, and it's also more direct. Of course, you have no control over if they translate that into their heads as 'fetish' and then start slapping those stereotypes down. That advice above is straighforward, and is the best that you can be about your foot liking without being creepy.
Posted by You (Member # 2107) on :
why does every thread end up about the same thing? lol
or am i just bitter?
Posted by LovelyLadies (Member # 5079) on :
I made the thread after seeing other threads about guys wondering why girls are getting creeped out or how to approach a girl about it. It's pretty simple and effective.
Posted by DancingFool (Member # 3728) on :
I hate the word 'fetish' myself--I've never uttered it. In these such cases, I let my actions speak louder than words.
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
agreed, leave it out. if anything maybe say enthusiast if they ask you if you have a fetish. just check the foot fetish noises (and other creepy vibe) at the door and you'll usually be just fine Posted by John Michaels (Member # 4576) on :
from what i've done, just excersize it, don't ever mention it, tho u can say like "ur feet look great", shell love the compliment
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
quote:Originally posted by You: why does every thread end up about the same thing? lol
or am i just bitter?
I think these threads are better than "which celebrity has the hottest feet" or anything along those lines. There is an evolution of our thinking. We're going from make believe to actually living out our fantasies. Some guys need help in making the transition from the computer to real life. I know I did!lol when I was a much younger less GQ guy ;o)
Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
L.L. :
Exactly; well said !!
_fjb_
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by LovelyLadies: NEVER say you have a foot fetish to a woman your working on getting her feet.
Well I dislike and disagree with the word "fetish" anyway. So I agree with how you said to say I like a girl with nice feet.
Fetish is such an ugly word, and I'm not entirely sure it fits with what we have anyway.
Posted by Broly (Member # 504) on :
Maybe we should officially omit the word "fetish" out of our world of foot fetishism? What would we re-create it as? How about FEET ATTRACTION. Would that be a better choice of word? I agree with everyone here. The word "fetish" adds a curse or taboo or sin to what we like. It's like adding "dsyfuntion" or "abnormality" or "abomination". Like some kind of negative "stereotype". Hope I sound positive to you all. Peace guys! Posted by Bootman (Member # 1280) on :
I think it would be almost impossible to eliminate the word fetish from our line of preference when it deals with the female body and parts. While there are some of us who do, in fact have a fetish for feet (fetish is something REQUIRED for sexual arousal or gratification) there are many and it seems many more of us who have just a strong preference for feet. And i'm tried and tested this theory as well, it's much better to say "I like my girls with pretty feet" or "I like it when girls have pretty feet", "I prefer a girl with pretty feet" and they usually always work better than starin at the ground tryin to keep from makin eye contact and squeamishly uttering "I have a foot fetish, i'm kind of a freak"
There's alot of times you'll get a cute smile and a "Really? Why feet? What do you think of mine" and wham-o insta nekkid feet. And it's a great conversation piece.
Atleast that's how it's worked for me. And i definitely agree w/GQ guy ya gotta get a lil help sometimes differentiating online life and real life and transitioning into real life while applying all the helpful info and advice from all the great guys from the forum!
Posted by RadioactiveToy (Member # 26926) on :
Well, I do say I like feet but I never call it fetish. As a matter of fact, I rather call it a foot preference because fetish is a preference drawn to maximum which means that person can't have orgasm without the contacting his object/part of body of his admiration. I can surely have orgasm without contacting feet but feet just makes it more intense which makes me a foot lover, not a foot fetishist.
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
quote:Originally posted by DancingFool: I hate the word 'fetish' myself--I've never uttered it. In these such cases, I let my actions speak louder than words.
That's exactly the way I handle it myself. The word has so many negative connotations and people, in general, jump to their own (and usually wrong) conclusions about how guys with a foot fetish act, or are supposed to act. You can let a woman know your preference/attraction for her feet without uttering a single word about it and let your actions do the talking once she feels comfortable enough being in your presence and trusts you.
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by Fate111: That's exactly the way I handle it myself. The word has so many negative connotations and people, in general, jump to their own (and usually wrong) conclusions about how guys with a foot fetish act, or are supposed to act.
That's the problem though. I think I give people the creeps anyhoo. So maye it's better if I shut-up about my foot thing
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
quote:Originally posted by DeadGoon:
quote:Originally posted by Fate111: That's exactly the way I handle it myself. The word has so many negative connotations and people, in general, jump to their own (and usually wrong) conclusions about how guys with a foot fetish act, or are supposed to act.
That's the problem though. I think I give people the creeps anyhoo. So maye it's better if I shut-up about my foot thing
From my personal experience, I find it's better to not communicate the foot thing verbally because, as I related before, people jump to their own conclusions and get a mindframe about it that is usually negative.
I find it's better to deal with women one on one about this for a few reasons: 1) She won't be influenced by what anyone else may say negatively about it when you convey it verbally (if you happen to be in a public situation), 2) Women are more apt to let a guy lead once they are comfortable being around him and trust him. As a result, a woman will be more open minded about things a guy will initiate that she may be unfamiliar with. 3) Women like guys who naturally lead and initiate things so going about revealing your preference for feet with actions comes off much more differently than telling her about it. Through action, you're initiating something (i.e. leading), which means you're comfortable and confident in who you are, not to mention that just doing it creates this novel thing that she probably hasn't experienced too often, if ever. That's an attractive quality that women look for in guys.
I've found that women will treat this type of revealing via actions more as an adventure, rather than telling her verbally in a neutral situation and letting her come to her own conclusions about it. Doing something "in the heat of the moment" definitely leaves a strong and profound impression in her psyche that you just can't get if you flat out tell a woman "I like feet" when her state is neutral and she actually has time to think about it. Initiating the action is, in of itself, getting her out of a neutral state of mind.
Case in point, I've asked a few women about this that I've had foot experiences with. Basically, I asked, "So, what was your reaction the first time I sucked on your toes?" Up until that point, I never gave any indication to any of them that I had any interest in their feet. While I may be paraphrasing a bit, every one of them said something like, "Well, my first reaction was, 'Whoa! What's he doing?' But once you began doing it, I was like, 'Hey, this feels really good. I hope he doesn't stop!'" I can't say I would've gotten the same type of reaction if I had just told them verbally at some point beforehand, "I like women's feet", or even, "I think women's feet are sexy" in the course of regular conversation.
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by Fate111: "So, what was your reaction the first time I sucked on your toes?" Up until that point, I never gave any indication to any of them that I had any interest in their feet. While I may be paraphrasing a bit, every one of them said something like, "Well, my first reaction was, 'Whoa! What's he doing?' But once you began doing it, I was like, 'Hey, this feels really good. I hope he doesn't stop!'"
Heh. It's funny you mention that. As that's pretty much the way I got my first foot action with my first girlfriend. She would pretend to be grossed out as I sucked her toes, but I could tell she liked it! She made no effort to stop me and would eventually moan with pleasure.
Makes sense though, as feet are errogenous zones for women.
Posted by blackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by DeadGoon:
quote:Originally posted by Fate111: That's exactly the way I handle it myself. The word has so many negative connotations and people, in general, jump to their own (and usually wrong) conclusions about how guys with a foot fetish act, or are supposed to act.
That's the problem though. I think I give people the creeps anyhoo. So maye it's better if I shut-up about my foot thing
same here
Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
quote:Originally posted by blackHxC88: same here
Just remember it's nothing to be depressed about. You'll learn to shrug it off one day and not care. I'm just glad I'm alive Posted by Rae124 (Member # 328) on :
Never use the term foot fetish. I like feet. I like 'your' feet works even better.
Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
Or even play it down; maybe saying something like, "I don't think about them much, but I think feet are O.K.."
_fjb_
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
Can't say that I've ever used the word "fetish" as regards my feelings about women's feet except here. I believe that there are degrees of fetishism so I don't fear the word, just seems unnecessary to use in conversation. When asked, I simply say that feet are a lovely way to end a leg and I really like the other end, too.
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