As I've been posting about recently, I have totally opened up to my wife about my fetish. When she asked me about my ultimate fantasy I told her that it would be for her to give me a climax with her feet (footjob). She's had a pretty conservative upbringing and had never heard of that- even saying that she can't imagine how she'd do it.
For a girl who's never seen nor heard of it, how would you describe how a girl gives a footjob? Would you try to describe it or simply say "I'll show you" or "we'll experiment"?
Secondly, she's insisting that after any pre-intercourse foot-play that I wash my penis. Obviously I'll have to honor that for her, and I understand that there is a possibility of infection maybe, but just curious if that's a usual request or course of action.
Posted by oscarthemonkey (Member # 1692) on :
Show her some videos of it being done
Posted by thosetoes (Member # 2489) on :
quote:Originally posted by oscarthemonkey: Show her some videos of it being done
Word. Worked for me.
Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
i think in time your lady will relax about it. i can tell you from my experiences as a new foot fetisher that my girlfriend generally got used to it.
and the first footjob she gave me happened in a relaxed and intimate moment, i simply asked her to try working me off with her feet and left her to it. she discovered what was best for her without me having to guide her.
as it was my first time i was happy with whatever she did, it was amazing and she got the hang of it instantly as if it was instict to do the moves we see in porn videos! lol
but seriously, over time she has leanred what turns me on and how to do it by my reactions. its only something i get as a special treat time to time but depending on the mood she seems to get more into it and its been better with time and practise
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
As far as footjobs go, I would recommend just going for it and taking action and showing her how it's done. At the same time, she can get a feel for what you like, the types of strokes she can do with her feet, how fast/slow you like it, how hard she grips you with her feet, etc..
I find that in those kind of situations, actions speak much louder than words do.
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
Feetluvr, are you planning an extracurricular activity while you are working out of state or something????
I think just telling the lady what it is and then as she experiements just talk her through it to what works best for your old pecker is my tried and true method. I don't think most gals are really going to want to see a clip of one in action.
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by LeDaemon: Feetluvr, are you planning an extracurricular activity while you are working out of state or something???? I think just telling the lady what it is and then as she experiements just talk her through it to what works best for your old pecker is my tried and true method. I don't think most gals are really going to want to see a clip of one in action.
No sir- not planning any EC activities, especially now that we've totally opened the doors to discussing my fetish. I set up a private blog that we use to post to each other and I just told her specifically about footjobs the other day. She was totally clueless- never saw or heard anything about them at all- that's why I asked...
I agree, I think it will just be best to experiment with her.
I also agree that she'd probably be more angry at me "finding" a FJ clip than enjoying it. (though there's no question she'd see some techniques)
Posted by Blondetoes (Member # 23795) on :
I beg to differ here my partner found loads of clips for me to see, I was over the moon as it gave me something to work towards. Helped me not hurt him in anyway, watching someone else do it gives you a better idea and also it helps you not feel so silly. Even if it is just a photo instead of a clip, the added bonus watching it is a real turn on for you both as it was to me and my partner.
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by Blondetoes: I beg to differ here my partner found loads of clips for me to see, I was over the moon as it gave me something to work towards. Helped me not hurt him in anyway, watching someone else do it gives you a better idea and also it helps you not feel so silly. Even if it is just a photo instead of a clip, the added bonus watching it is a real turn on for you both as it was to me and my partner.
Well thank you! I appreciate the feedback. I'll think about this some more.
Posted by johnpeter (Member # 23295) on :
I think showing her a video would risk getting her a bit riled up. If you do go ahead with it, try and find something non-threatening to her, not super pornographic and not young, nubile girls that might make her feel intimidated, particularly if she suspects you've been whacking off to it.
Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
quote:Originally posted by johnpeter: particularly if she suspects you've been whacking off to it.
well if she's bright she would assume that he is showing her a clip of his ideal footjob and how he wants her to do it
she should know he is rubbing one out to the clip he shows Posted by Rae124 (Member # 328) on :
Erm just put your cock between her feet and start fucking.
Posted by higharchlover (Member # 23372) on :
quote:Originally posted by Rae124: Erm just put your cock between her feet and start fucking.
Thats how it always starts for me! I have only dated one woman that had ever given a footjob before she met me....the rest have never really heard of one! It usually happens with me giving the girl a footrub on the couch, and she will notice the bulge in my pants. When I get my crank out, if they are unsure of what to do, I grab both feet and go to town! They pick up on what I'm doing and usually take over themselves. Sometimes they giggle and maybe feel stupid. Thats because she doesnt understand how her feet alone could be turning you on so much! Once they have that figured out, usually it will become a regular activity. At least that is what I have discovered. If your girl is letting you rub her feet, there is a pretty good chance that you can take it further. Also, if your wife/girlfriend feels embarrased the first few times, have her lay on her belly with her soles facing up. That way she doesnt have to look at you or what you are doing. I have had to start this way a few times. If I had to describe a footjob to a girl, I would tell her its a no-handed handjob!
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by Mighty Mike:
quote:Originally posted by johnpeter: particularly if she suspects you've been whacking off to it.
well if she's bright she would assume that he is showing her a clip of his ideal footjob and how he wants her to do
While this could be a touchy subject (she may suspect that I've whacked to similar clips in the past) I've basically promised that, since she's doing so much foot-stuff for me and is willing to do footjobs, that I've seriously sworn off looking at videos like this.
She's a very bright lady and naturally will undoubtedly assume that I've watched, if not whacked off to foot vids in the past, but she's also interested, eager and willing to learn. In some ways it would be much easier to show her a vid raher than try to describe how to do it- especially since she's totally clueless about FJ's.
Posted by beamont (Member # 21780) on :
I searched "how to give a footjob" and there was an article there of a woman describing to a person how to give a footjob because she wanted to give her boyfriend one and didn't know how.
When I was opening up to my girlfriend about my fetish, I showed her that and we watch porn Posted by Mighty Mike (Member # 1922) on :
I just remembered on hbo shows "cathouse" a chick taught the other prostitutes how to do a footjob on a dildo
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
take her to sexyfeetvideos.com and there ya go...click on one or let her click on one and then see what happens! That's what I let my girl do..well I convientley "left the screen on" while I went to run some errands and I came back expecting to see her on it and ta da! there she was! She had a basic idea on how to do one but she now knew HOW I wanted one done...the rest is history...she didnt take offense to it at all..or to the fact that I hammered loads out to the clips.
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