I had a question for you guys. One of my ex-girlfriends knew about my foot fetish and she thought it was kind of wierd and gave me the occasional FJ but she was never into it. She was long-term and we ended up breaking up (not because of my fetish) and now I have a new girlfriend.
My new gf is the kind of girl that will try anything and likes to do different things and I want her to know about my fetish but I've always been embaressed about it. Without me saying anything, she has started rubbing my dick with her feet under tables at restaurants and it turns me on like crazy so I told her that we would have to do that more often with a table with a table cloth on it.
I dunno how to tell her that I want to encorporate it into bed though. I don't think she has any idea about it even though sometimes if I'm going down on her she does rub it a bit. I'm too embaressed to take it further and say anything. We are lookin for new things to do.
What should I do? Since we are looking for new things I could always suggest it and then when we try it tell her it feels really good but I dunno. I'm stuck in a tough spot haha. I know most people are going to say "just tell her" but it's never easy.
thanks
Posted by catsman (Member # 10269) on :
Thw way I see it...........you two are already incorporating it into your bedroom.....This is foreplay dude, and for us footguys, the best foreplay possible,......If she knows this is driving you crazy, then she already knows everything she needs to know!
Posted by beamont (Member # 21780) on :
I dunno if she knows it drives me crazy. She just happened to do it one day under the table and I said we have to do it again. WHen I mentioned with the table cloth to her, I mentioned to her that I would undo my pants, etc and she got the notion. I never told her I was crazy about it, just that what she did felt good.
What should my next step be?
Posted by pugnut (Member # 14025) on :
I was embarrassed at first also, but found that if your open about it, most girls don't care, some even get into it. I hate to tell you the approach to use and screw it up for you. Over the years I started being able to tell if the girl would go for it or not. Your key words were "the kind of girl that will try anything" If she thinks it's weird, educate her, show her this web site. Let her know that your not the only guy that likes this. Good luck and let us know how it comes out (no pun intended)
Posted by beamont (Member # 21780) on :
ha, im sure once she does it, she will have fun doing it but its just getting over the whole barrier of letting her know. I mean, she was the one that starting rubbing me with her feet under the table. And then after I mentioned we have to do it again but more, she said something like "yea, we'll have fun with our feet". But from there I didn't wanna be like "yea i have a foot fetish, i wanna fuck your feet" Posted by Bondo (Member # 1403) on :
Here's my philosophy on hesitation and apprehensiveness: the toilet seat is never as cold as you think it's going to be.
Just sit and be done with it. Even if it is cold, it goes away quickly. After that, you're comfortable in a matter of seconds.
It's all in your mind. She's obviously open to new things like you said. Why wouldn't she be open to a guy having a foot fetish?
I know, it's easier said than done. You will do it though. Once you do, you'll feel good and you'll question why you were ever so apprehensive.
Posted by beamont (Member # 21780) on :
Well, Bondo I took your advice. I was talking to my girlfriend about new places to do it in, positions, etc. We were talkin over msn and exploring askmen.com (they have some good sex info, check it out for anyone who hasn't).
I didn't full out tell her I like feet, but I said that I don't feel wierd about trying anything new like... blah, blah, feet, blah, blah. I kinda threw it in there and then I said, "I don't mind feet, that time you started rubbing me under the table with them was hot" and then she said "i think i found something new to try on you"
So I'm gonna let her have her fun and then tell her that it was awesome and then she will do it all the time . She said she wouldn't feel wierd about new stuff with me. So I'll keep you guys updated. Maybe eventually even post some pictures in the other section.
Ya!
Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
that is a good story. you're well away. hope it goes well for you!
i used to be embarresed telling my girlfriend and extremely apprehensive the first time. now if i tell her im embarresed she tells me to shut up! she dwont always please me with her feet but now she knows it drives me crazy she'll do some good things for me without me verbally having to ask. she just knows! and once your girl knows by the sounds of it she'll use it to her advantage!
Posted by beamont (Member # 21780) on :
Well, you guys were right.
It's 7:27 am as I right this. Didn't go to sleep last night. On msn, she tells me to come over at 2:30 am so I do. We ended up having the best sex we've ever had (and we have some pretty good sex!) 5 times. After the last time I mentioned she should try using her feet and she said "Okay!" So she gave me 3 footjobs... When I came all over her toes, it was such a relief. I have no idea how I was able to stay completely solid the entire night.
The entire time this was happening, her totally anal parents were 20 feet away with their bedroom door wide open and had no idea I was even there Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by Bondo: Here's my philosophy on hesitation and apprehensiveness: the toilet seat is never as cold as you think it's going to be.
So true, so true. Great little nugget of wisdom!
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
beamont.. your lady knows you like feet. trust me. she knows.. she'll pretend not to know to see what you'll do. but she knows.. trust me! after all that info you shared... if she doesn't know.. she's a total airhead. she knows. relax. enjoy. you're in good hands as well as good feet!
RPM
Posted by Vittoria Erotica (Member # 21753) on :
Yes good story! It always makes me sad when people are ashamed or embarrassed about their foot fetish. I say shout it loud Posted by beamont (Member # 21780) on :
Haha, well I asked her about it after. I asked her if she thought it was wierd. And she said "well at first it was a little wierd and I was thinking... what am I doing? But then I liked it and it was fun"
I was just said "... yea I don't think it's wierd at all, let's do it more often"
finally.
Posted by Bondo (Member # 1403) on :
quote:Originally posted by Vittoria Erotica: It always makes me sad when people are ashamed or embarrassed about their foot fetish. I say shout it loud
Here here
After a while, the apprehensiveness goes away, that's for sure. I used to be completely uncomfortable at just the thought of telling people about my fetishes. As with anything in life, the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Posted by Vittoria Erotica (Member # 21753) on :
quote:Originally posted by Bondo:
After a while, the apprehensiveness goes away, that's for sure. I used to be completely uncomfortable at just the thought of telling people about my fetishes. As with anything in life, the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Yes and the more comfortable you feel adding things to the mix!
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
although my girl knows and indulges my love for feet I found a way to incorporate foot play while giving her some pleasure. While "eating her out" grab one of her legs and position yourself so that you can easily make her foot rub on your cock... she is definetly going to be distracted and more willing to do that and if she doesnt take the bait just do it for her she will get the picture that you like your cock rubbed while your eating her out! Sounds like something obvious I know but there is a backup plan too...if she says what the hell was that all about then tell her since you cant give me a handjob while I'm pleasuring you I thought of the next best thing/closest thing to it...your foot! Posted by Rae124 (Member # 328) on :
I do that, bluetoelover.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
If your girlfriend played footsy with you at a restaurant, perhaps she has a clue about you already. Why not offer to massage her feet one evening, and see where it goes from there.
Posted by GimmeFeet (Member # 13817) on :
Do you guys use the term "girlfriend" loosely or something??? For someone to be your "girlfriend", you would have to be going out and/or having sex for a WHILE now. So... do you avoid her feet ALL THAT time and then come to these boards whining "How do I play with my "girlfriend's" feet?" If she's your "girlfriend" then why the fuck doesn't she know that you like feet? You can get her pussy anytime you want (because she's your "girlfriend"), yet you cant touch her feet??? ... Ok.... People, stop using the term "girlfriend" for women you've been seeing for a couple days. If she's really your "girlfriend" then her feet are yours for the taking. So stop bitching on these boards about your "girlfriends" (that none of y'all bitch-whiners have, by the way), when in fact she just a girl that doesn't appreciate a stranger (you) touching her feet this early in the "Hanging Out" stage.
Posted by Gameon (Member # 20877) on :
Rub her feet after work and whilst doing it, tell her you really like her feet, then remind her of the restuaurant activites and ask for more Posted by oliver2788 (Member # 22943) on :
i knew my gf was into feet when we were playing around on my bed she was rubbing her feet against mine. that how i knew most girls do that when they a=r into feet.
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