note: not feet related but this will get more hits in this section and its still female related.
i have this friend i have been talking to online for a while, and well i met her on facebook and she happened to go to the same school i went to..
ANYWAY , she is mad cool and cute as fuck, and shes from el salvador i knew what she looks like cuz i have pics and such and we pretty much have good conversation all the time i make her laugh and shit and i kinda flirt w/ her and flatter her much blah blah online. and from her reactions she seems to not mind it.. she even called me adorable for it. its always been a real good vibe in conversations we were just online friends and i never had seen her in person btw...
so she invited me to her b-day party like 2 weeks ago she just turned 21 her party was cool saw her and her friends in person... (she is still cute as fuck and has a sexy accent) and it was like 6 people altogether. so anyway after the party i talked to her like 2 days later online, but she seemed like she didnt want to talk.. like giving me one word and one phrase answers like she wasnt trying to continue it. but she was laughing at my jokes and what not and today when i got to talk to her again it was the same thing.. such a wierd vibe!! i kind of want to chill w/ her again, jus to chill but im not gonna try anything cuz of her overbearing pops (not to say that i wouldnt mind dating her if i had to option). she gave me her num b4 the party and i asked her if i could call her once in a while and she was like yea....jus not at 3 am joking and winked... I dont always get to talk to her bc shes mad busy...
so i guess what im trying to ask is what do you guys think is the deal?? is it just me and im reading too deep or is my intuition right that something is wierd?
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Something could be wrong..as in something else in her life is going on...could be anything...its a chick remember that man! The best thing you could do would be to just casually ask her whats wrong/bothering her...she will straight up tell you...or just bullshit you and say nothing...it seems to be something significant though..you noticed her "mood" change,so it cant just be nothing.Good luck...could also be that certain time of the month Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
if her attitude has changed completely since that party, i think somehow she has become not interested. if she's had a day or 2 that she's been 'weird' and a cpl of days where is normal, its probably her life getting in the way.
one bit of advice i have.. as difficult as it is.. give her room and dont pressure.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
give her room.. that is my feeling on this. it is possible while chatting and all.. a certain romanticizing of things took place and when meeting in person and the harsh reality set it.. dynamics changed.
only way to know.. ask her what's up. don't pressure her. if she's really that cool.. she'll say what's on her mind. if not.. just back up and let time pass.
you said she's mad busy... i'm mad busy!!!! really busy.. but i make time for what intersts me. (not being too harsh or anything).
RPM
Posted by Sinnister (Member # 2394) on :
You seem like a pretty perceptive dude so I'll break it down for you straight. She ain't feelin you like that....she thought at first maybe but then changed her mind. I'd move on cause there are tons of hot girls out there that dont even know it! Those are the ones you want....
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
My feeling as well is that she lost interest. The best thing to do is to just lay back. To let her know you're possibly interested in more than just friendship at this point would be the kiss of death. She'll see it as you being needy and it will kill whatever atrtaction she may have left for you. Just play it cool and treat her more like one of your guy friends or, better yet, your bratty little sister. Bust on her and keep things light with humor.
Posted by pedactor (Member # 12893) on :
**news flash i may have been thrown a curve ball (or maybe not0** i jus imed her saying "hey there you" just now and she wasnt answering...then i wrote "ok i guess your busy or just dont want to talk to me right now (to try and get something out of her)... peace" then she write back w/ an emphatic hi and she actually seemed more wanting to be engaged in conversation but it was a hot minute cuz she was watchin a movie...honestly it might be worth it for me to attempt to kill it...w/ the kiss of death, lol jus so i know im not wasting anymore time bc i actually want to chill w/ her again...call it a date if you will, even if it is just friends... to be perfectly real, from the beginning i wanted to be strong enough to just keep it as friends (once again not to say i wouldnt go further if i had the chance) so i wouldnt fuck up anything...actually i have been strong... but still even as just friends it is nice to be in the company of a female... so yea fuck it, im just gonna ask her if we can chill again and if i kill it, fuck it, cuz 1.i hate suspense, 2.i have other things to focus on and 3. i hate trying to rely on perception alone... at least ill know if i have a future as a psychic Posted by angel wood (Member # 9241) on :
to me, i think shes tryin to test you out. i thought that might have been the issue from the beginning. shes just tryin to see if you will chase her. people do and say alot of things just to show their not attracted when they really are. For women, they come off like that so they can protect themselves. because you know women are emotional creatures and if you hurt them they wont know how to handle it. what im saying is you cant always go by words, i use to do the same thing to this girl i liked, by giving her one word answers, i dont know why i did it. Some girls have done that to me, but when i left them alone thats when they came running back to me. try takling to her over the phone more and not the computer and yes ask her out one day. if she say yes then your in. if she says no but tells you what other day she is avaibale then she is worth the chase. but if she just says no without anything else then leave her alone you can send me a message to let me know how everything goes i hope this was helpful catch ya later
Posted by pedactor (Member # 12893) on :
thanks everyone for the input... i will keep u all posted on what happens...
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The best thing you could do would be to just casually ask her whats wrong/bothering her...she will straight up tell you...or just bullshit you and say nothing...it seems to be something significant though..you noticed her "mood" change,so it cant just be nothing.Good luck...could also be that certain time of the month ![[Fingers Crossed]](graemlins/fingersx.gif)