my experience this weekend was qite an eye opener and its only foot related peripherally, but i think you guys will get a kick out of it.
my wife and i have flirted with the idea of threesomes for a couple of years now and the interest waxes and wanes depending on other things in our life. well, it been growing again and my wife told me on friday nite (after signing up at a swinger site) that her biggest fantasy is to have me with another girl. she wants to see me do everything with another girl while she watches and is involved. i was kinda iffy cause that just sounds too good to be true. she assured me that she would do anything included begging to convince me that we was really wanting it and more than ok with it.
so after saying hell yeah, lets do it, we started laying limits. she said no limits.. whatever you want to do... i said what about her feet? she paused and said, ok, thats out of the question. thats just too weird for me to thnk about you sucking some other girls toes. we laughed about that the rest of the weekend.
Posted by dirtyfootman (Member # 9086) on :
Me personally I dont believe in threesoms but if you do and you like it then you are one lucky man.
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
hey.. sounds to me like her feet is well connected to you and she wants that just for herself. cool!!!!
i'm not a threesome kinda guy. but now you know.. don't touch the other gal's feet.. and you're a-ok with your wife!
RPM
Posted by FtLckr26 (Member # 13998) on :
Lucky guy. Too bad you can't have the other girls feet, but then again your wife is ok with a threesome so it kind of still works out really good. I couldn't do that. If i wasn't married yeah, but not now.
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
Wow, dude! Your wife is comfortable with every and anything else in the equation (and watching/getting in the action as well), but you can't enjoy the other woman's peds? OK, cool. That is not such a bad deal. You can't always have your cake and eat it too. Can you sniff or get a footjob instead? There is a pro and a con to every situation.
[ October 12, 2006, 01:48 AM: Message edited by: Footman9 ]
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
(i will digress shamefully for a second to say this... Footman9.. always awesome avatar.. and this time.. i'm only looking.. not copying)
back on topic.. yeah.. there are always pros and cons... but wow.. I couldn't even imagine what i'd be like to be in such a situation.. i've got no interest to find out either.. keep us posted
RPM
Posted by nusuth (Member # 7372) on :
i dont think it will be any time soon before we find someone. we are selective and arent just gonna grab the first chance we get. i wasnt ever interested in threesomes either before i met my wife, but she has opened up a new world to me.. as i did for her. i never understood it and thought it was 'wrong'. i now feel that anything you do with your partner that you are both happy with doing is completely acceptable... as long as it isnt illegal. i do love my wife and feel that emotional contact with her when we are intimate, but i have also learned to seperate the two also and enjoy the sex in a purely physical way.
as for the foot aspect. i am perfectly happy with NOT touching another woman that way. until i met her, i was purely a visually oriented guy anyway and dont really fantasize about another womens feet... i was just testing the limits when i asked her. no contact means NO contact.. including massaging, footjobs, or sniffing.. which i have no interest in to begin with.
Posted by Footman9 (Member # 1100) on :
quote:Originally posted by RPM: (i will digress shamefully for a second to say this... Footman9.. always awesome avatar.. and this time.. i'm only looking.. not copying)
Thanks. I try to keep my avatars fresh and updated with something that fits my mood at the time. Again, thanks.
Posted by Gimme (Member # 6872) on :
even though there are many girls and women who express themselves freely than other, in the notion that they want to provoke and to become different from the rest of the fem. population; when it comes to the point of practising "free relationships" within their own relationships or marriage the chicken out. I ve discussed this with many boys and girls .. and it seems that it seems to them more as a fantasy rather than an actual fact to happen in reality.
Gimme.
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
That's cool that your wife is interested in having a threesome, nusuth. I think if both of you are fine with it and have a healthy attitude towards it, things should be fine. Personally, I don't think I could do it if I couldn't have fun with the other woman's feet but, hey, that's just me.
I'm sure there may be times when your lady may be reluctant to try this, especially because you are married to each other. However, I've heard it has been proven (Supposedly, the studies are out there.) that women are less polarized when it comes to having a sexual act with another woman - i.e. women have more bisexual tendencies than men, for the most part. There are, of course, exceptions to this. With reference to what Gimme said about talking to women about this, I think it all comes down to how the question is asked. If a woman is asked point blank if she is bisexual, she will analyze the question as, "Do you prefer to sleep with men and women all the time. Of course, her answer to this will be "no" because she doesn't consider herself to be a person who wants to sleep with both men and women all the time. Whereas, if you ask a woman if she has ever had a sexual experience with another woman at some point in her life, you may be surprised at how many women will say they have, or that they have at least fantasized about it.
I've heard another interesting thing when it comes to women and threesomes and that is women won't consider it a lesbian or bisexual act if a man is present in the situation. Because a man is present, they have the ability to block out in their minds that what they're doing with another woman and the man is a bisexual act. It's like her and the man are there and there just happens to be another woman there as well and the man being there gives the woman "permission" or justification to act on her bisexual fantasy.
Seeing how most women are less polarized when it comes to their sexuality, there are probably more women out there with bisexual tendencies than most men think. It's just a matter of the woman being comfortable with a guy and then a guy just coming out and asking her if she has had any girl/girl experiences and if she's interested in having one with the guy, and not asking her if she's bisexual. Most men think the topic is taboo and off limits with a women they're seeing, going out with, etc., and it never gets brought up. Consequently, if it never gets brought up, the woman usually won't volunteer the information so it goes undetected.
Posted by Rae124 (Member # 328) on :
Guys, I think he was joking about the toe sucking thing.
It's like, you can do everything else to the chick but toe sucking is off limits - yeah right.
![[Blush]](blush.gif)
she wants to see me do everything with another girl while she watches and is involved. i was kinda iffy cause that just sounds too good to be true. she assured me that she would do anything included begging to convince me that we was really wanting it and more than ok with it. ![[Eek!]](eek.gif)
Wow, dude! Your wife is comfortable with every and anything else in the equation (and watching/getting in the action as well), but you can't enjoy the other woman's peds? OK, cool. That is not such a bad deal. You can't always have your cake and eat it too. Can you sniff or get a footjob instead? ![[Evil Grin]](graemlins/evilgrin.gif)
There is a pro and a con to every situation.