lol i'm tellin ya i need a g/f...the last time i was with a girl was over a year ago. we broke up on bad terms whatever..
ANYWAY i work like 50 hours a week and honestly it's such a tease workin in a retail environment (best buy)... everyday i see women that drive me nuts cause they are so attractive and especially NOW when all the hott feet are exposed it is such a tease. i can honestly tell you guys this past week alone i was talkin to customer and got a glance at her feet and had to literally lean against the counter to not show my wood....lol and we wear dockers/khakis so it's even more obvious hahaha.
That happened 3 times in the past 2 weeks or so i tell you when you're not getting any (sex..or even footjobs lol)you can hardly contain yourself and masturbation is NO cure. Lol i'm not joking i even tried to not think of anything sexually or masturbate for a while to maybe see if i could lessen my sexual drive.....lol that didn't work.
I need a g/f but honestly right now i simply cannot make time or even "go out" cause i'm payin bills and sh*t...it's so friggin hard i swear it. It's so frustrating seeing other friends go out, have fun...and you're lonely and just work.. Way back when i was hooked up everything was cool...i mean even if we had sex like 2 times a week it was better then this.
PS btw in the 2 serious relationships i've had i never told my g/f about my foot fetish...it was a secret. NOW when i get a g/f i'm gonna be straight up with it cause that's one of my urges lol. If she's not into it's alright i'll persuade her haha. Sorry guys i had to vent alittle..
Posted by ozkar (Member # 13264) on :
I offer this advice in complete sincerity and I am not teasing you whatsoever.
If you feel you "need" someone you should be doing some soul-searching inside yourself. No one should "need" anyone else. The dependency a person eventually will have on their partner is something that is meant to be built together over time. A young dude, as I'm assuming you could be, shouldn't "need" anyone.
If you are getting that aroused in public you may need to start hanging out with women more, just as friends, to kind of train yourself to be more disciplined or perhaps view women in a different way.
Hope some of this helps, -Oz
Posted by gibarian (Member # 11661) on :
Thanks... I don't look at women as a pure sex object, sorry if i came off that way. And as far as needing a girl, i just miss the closeness...the sex..the friendship etc...
Only way i can describe it, picture driving a fast car in which you had such a good time in...and now you're in a 80hp ford escort lol and everything is so boring...and when you see the fast cars you remember what you are missing.
Lol and no i'm not comparing women to cars...i'm a car nut and come up with these stupid analogy's.
Posted by ElmntEarth1 (Member # 9310) on :
i drive a ford escort....
Posted by Wrinklesguy (Member # 732) on :
Gibarian: Where are you from? Hey don't feel bad dude, i've been single for over 6 years..literally become a Monk.If anyone needs feet or a g/f it's me bro!
Posted by popsicletoes (Member # 1105) on :
If you don't have a gf because you don't have the time to date then there is not much you can do about that. If you aren't going out because you don't have any money then I think you should rethink that. If your lack of money is temporary then many women will understand and be OK with that. Heck most of the fun stuff we do on dates doesn't cost a thing ..... ie cuddling on couch and watching a movie, making a romantic dinner for each other, going for a walk or a picnic, having sex You should still try asking a lady on a date .. maybe for coffee and at some point on the date explain your situation. Now if your lack of money is never going away that is a different story. Many of us don't want to spend our lives never having money to do the things we love.
For sure tell your next gf about your love of feet. Trust us women a little LOL
Posted by Calico Jack (Member # 2299) on :
quote:Originally posted by ElmntEarth1: i drive a ford escort....
LOL... Ah yes the Escort, the working girl of the automotive world!
I think popsicletoes had some great advice because relationships can certainly take many different forms and need not necessarily manifest themselves as spent cash out on the town. John & Paul once sang that "Money can't buy me love", and I still believe them apart from the occasional romp with escorts.
Calico Jack
Posted by RPM (Member # 2895) on :
i don't want to repeat all the great advice out there.. but it's worth saying it... be the best boyfriend material you can be and get content with yourself. you'll become a babe magnet without knowing it and then you'll have the pick of the litter. i went through a period like that and got involved with the relationship from hell. then.. took time to work on me and be content. now i'm in the relationship from heaven!!!!! we don't 'need' each other, but want to share things together. right now i'm temporarily dry on cash.. she hasn't noticed. we do things that we enjoy and keep close without the money. when i get my cashflow fixed, we'll keep building like we've been doing. had i not been comfy with myself.. we'd never would have hooked up!!!!!!!!
RPM
Posted by wiggler (Member # 2240) on :
Along with Wrinklesguy, I have six years of solitude under my belt with no end in sight. Every day I lament and hate the fact that I'm never going to get laid ever again. I've done everything I can. I've changed into every person including the real me I can think of. I've ditched the drama and baggage, embraced life with an overwhelming confidence and renewed sense of personal identity. Nothing. No one will even give me a chance. I'm good-looking. I'm a good guy. I'm perfect boyfriend material.
But they won't even give me a chance.
Posted by popsicletoes (Member # 1105) on :
Wiggler since I have never met you I can't really say what the problem could me. Sounds like you have worked on yourself which is the first and best thing to do. Smart of you to do that. You say you are good looking .. that really helps LOL. Mind you if you go into anything thinking no one will give you a chance that may come across and hurt your chances.
The only other 2 options I can think of is your approach with women and the women you are going after. Do you have any friends that can help you on your approach? You may be doing one little thing that is turning women off ... and that sadly is all it takes. As for the womne you approach ... do you feel they are honestly in your league? Are you approaching women that are fantasy women .. or ones who are more realistic?
I have seen some amazingly unattractive people .. both physically and mentally unattractive .... get dates. Mind you with women all you have to do is put out to get a date LOL Don't give up on getting a date. Be willing to take a close and maybe painful look at what you might be doing wrong.
Posted by FTPHANTOM (Member # 47) on :
I know what your feeling gabarian,and wrinklesguy.I suffered a whole year with out feet,when I went to war.And i couldn't come here (Wu's) to get my daily fix either.
Posted by footlickz (Member # 13557) on :
being single is far better. you can do whatever you want, and GET whatever you want as long as you use your brain. two relationships and no foot play? come on... it's not that hard. girls usually dig it anyway.
Posted by ledaemon (Member # 198) on :
Gibarian, I'm trying to understand your whole situation. I'm assuming your a fairly young guy working his ass off to make ends meet to support yourself on your own. You mention your friends are always going out, but are your friends also working like you do or are they still living at home supported by their parents? Just curious.
I can remember when I was in my early 20s just starting out after college working the long hours in the low paying entry position and not having time to actually live. I did that for a few years until I came to a realization that you can balance life and your work. Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day and it is just a matter of making use of that down time productively. Mind you I was shacking up playing house with my future wife at the same time so I didn't have the foot/sex dry spell then, but I did neglect hobbies, going out, hanging with friends etc. Even my old lady accused me of loving work more than her then.
Just remember to try to do the whole life/work balance. If there is a total of 168 hours in a week in which you stated you work 50 of those hours(10 hours 5 days), sleep probably about 56 hours (being generous with an average 8 hours a day), shit/shave/shower about 3.5 hours (1/2 hour a day), an hour a day of drive time to and from work (5 hours guesstimate) looks like it adds up to 114 hours of time you have to dedicate to being a responsible bread earner. You still have another 54 hours left in the week (and assuming 48 hours of that are two days off from work) to go out with your pals, meet a lady, and spooge on her toes.
Good luck!
Posted by Calico Jack (Member # 2299) on :
quote:Originally posted by footlickz: being single is far better. you can do whatever you want, and GET whatever you want as long as you use your brain.
Ditto. For me being single is the only way to go due to the sheer variety that I've grown accustomed to and which being single amply affords me. That doesn't mean that I don't admire folks who've found their one special partner in life though. In the words of velvet fog Mel Tormé, "I think that's the tops!"
quote:Originally posted by ledaemon: You still have another 54 hours left in the week (and assuming 48 hours of that are two days off from work) to go out with your pals, meet a lady, and spooge on her toes.
LOL, I think that Paul just stumbled upon a great idea for a brand new reality show on TV. The premise is a limited amount of time in which a fledgling foot fetishist must get out there in the big city, make the rounds, socialize, meet a gal, and somehow manage to "spooge on her toes" before the clock runs out! I'm sure there'd be prize money at the end of the tunnel if he was successfully able to pull it off, but quite frankly I'd be more than satisfied with the "spooging" alone.
Calico Jack
P.S. - Hell, I'd watch it in a heartbeat!
Posted by vineofthorns (Member # 1313) on :
If your in your late teens or early 20s and money is an issue,find a woman in their 30's,they are @ their sexual peak and a lot of them go out of their way for a younger guy for those resons,and they will not be shy with their money,take my word for it for I had lived that and seen it a million times(a lot of times if you don't even want to sleep with them,all of this happends anyways haha).they may also relate to your work sceduale and if you are that desperate for a date,a midnite meeting I'm sure wouldn't be an issue. Another thing maybe you should try is see what other jobs are out there so your work sceduale isn't so demanding.I work close to 50 hours a week,but my sceduale allows me to work 9-7,5 days a week,so I'm able to have "my time" to do whatever from 730-12 mon-fri.no reson to panic,women are a dime a dozen if you want it THAT bad,you could have it,jus got to put some effort into it. Now as for the guy who hasn't had a women in 6 years,wow I'm sorry dude.try having some alcahol @ a decent bar,what's the worse that could happen??
Posted by jediofthefeet (Member # 1463) on :
I had another bad dream last night.
I dreamed I was having sex with Charlotte York from "Sex in the City".
First, it was Alexis Bledel from "The Gilmore Girls", and not this???!!!
How did it happen? I shunned the show, after one nonsensical episode too much, but paused upon it Saturday night. Charlotte was having a property battle with her mother-in-law before I changed the channel.
Mind you, I find Kim Cattrall's and her character as the hottest on that show. Yet I dreamed about Kristin Davis's character, whom even on the shoe and foot fetish episode, she did not do it for me.
In the words of one of the clients on the WB show "Love, Inc.", "Need love now!"
Posted by Calico Jack (Member # 2299) on :
quote:Originally posted by jediofthefeet: I had another bad dream last night.
I dreamed I was having sex with Charlotte York from "Sex in the City".
Having sex with Kristin Davis is a bad dream for you? Damn man, I'd love to see what your good dreams are like some time!
Incidentally I agree with you about Kim Cattrall being the hottest one on that show, but Kristin's my 2nd favorite and aside from being a remarkably pretty gal also happens to have one of the finest pairs of feet in Hollywood these days IMHO. Foot action with the two of those gals together would be a wet dream come true for me!
Calico Jack
Posted by ledaemon (Member # 198) on :
I think you guys just need to stop falling asleep with the TV on! Posted by joe (Member # 981) on :
its depressing being single and seeing all the feet in the metro and at work and not getting any. i'm no calico jack that gets many women. its difficult for the average looking skinny guys. lol I know everyone says to be confident but that simple doesn't work if the girl isn't attracted to you physically.
Posted by wiggler (Member # 2240) on :
<<"Along with Wrinklesguy, I have six years of solitude under my belt with no end in sight. Every day I lament and hate the fact that I'm never going to get laid ever again. I've done everything I can. I've changed into every person including the real me I can think of. I've ditched the drama and baggage, embraced life with an overwhelming confidence and renewed sense of personal identity. Nothing. No one will even give me a chance. I'm good-looking. I'm a good guy. I'm perfect boyfriend material.
But they won't even give me a chance">>
This is what I wrote LAST WEEK. My, how things change.
My friends, last Saturday I went to a birthday party. I wore my usual clothes, instead of trying to look sexy because, I thought, What's the point? In walks a tall blonde hottie with bare feet in jeans, wearing light green nail polish and open-toed heels. We chatted outside, where she took off her shoes and wiggled her toes in the grass. Yummy! And, while chatting with her and her equally sexy, but spoken for, friend, I was in FULL FORCE. I was the most charming son of a bitch I've ever been in my life.
Thank God my friend was so drunk he wouldn't let me leave the house without her phone number. I was too nervous, he dragged me back and got me her number. I watched, feeling, How can a chick so beautiful give ME her number? She didn't look even remotely interested.
I don't want to play games with her so I called her this evening, two days later. I was expecting a simple and quick rejection, but I got an enthusiastic hello and, before even I know what's going on, she suggests we get together for a drink Wedsnday night. Or coffee. Whatever.
The point is, even if nothing happens with this one, I will not feel bad enough to write something like last week's blurb for quite a while.
Guys, this is not a fluke. This actually happened to me and... maybe next weekend, it will be your turn. This chick is beautiful and smart and really cool, not your average Jo Fat-Hips Bunion-Feet.
REMEMBER THIS STORY the next time you are at a birthday party or hanging with your work buddies at a bar.
Posted by Calico Jack (Member # 2299) on :
quote:Originally posted by ledaemon: I think you guys just need to stop falling asleep with the TV on!
That's one of the ironies though because even though I love those two gals passionately, I still can't bring myself to ever watch that damn show. I usually just watch Seinfeld at 11 and then just turn the TV off for the night after it's over.
quote:Originally posted by ledaemon: i'm no calico jack that gets many women. its difficult for the average looking skinny guys.
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