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In so many ways, thanks to this group, my foot dreams are being realized with my wife. She now wears, anklets, toe rings and sandals for me, gives me her feet to play with whenever we're together, and let's me climax on them whenever and however I want.
But although she'll let me do whatever I want with her feet, the movement toward her doing a true footjob on me (where she uses her feet/toes on her own to stroke me and get me off) seems to be going so slow. I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice to get us "over the hump."
I must be honest and confess that we do not verbally communicate well about sex in general, though our sex life is incredible (kinda strange isn't it). Though I've tried showing her different things and encouraging her to do some things, she just doesn't seem to "get it." (and please understand, I'm not saying she's stupid- she's very intelligent) Each time we have sex, her feet are more involved, some from my prompting, but mostly it's her own instincts. I truly believe that she's just sexually naive enough about foot matters, that she might never figure out what a "foot job" truly is if you asked her and gave her a month to think about it.
Though I alrady know that a large part of the answer is talking to her, telling her about FJ's and being more direct about telling her specifically what to do- does anyone have any detailed suggestions about how or what to tell her about it, what to ask her or what to show her to do? In other words, say you "hook-up" with a girl who's never done a FJ, but you know she's not averse to it. What do you usually say and do to get her to successfully do one for you?
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I can think of a couple of things that might help you. One thing that might help is a visual. Maybe you can show her a video clip of how you like it done (there's certainly ne shortage of footjob clips on the Internet).
The second way is to physically guide her. Get in position guide her feet in the position and motion that you want.
Oh, and practice makes perfect, so you may have to keep trying until you get it right...hehehee!
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I normally just say "could you use your feet on me?" and then if they're unsure about what to do then say it's like a handjob... But with feet. I'm pretty vocal about what I like in the bedroom and say what I'd like the bed partner to do; I remember last footjob I got I was just giving ideas like "put me between your toes" or "jerk me with your arches". Then I would guide her feet for a bit while she got the hang of it and then let her do the work. Remember though that it's quite hard work to give a footjob and requires practice and fairly strong legs, so don't be surprised if you don't come from the footjob for a few times while your wife gets to grips with it.
I hope this helps you!
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quote:Originally posted by Martial Law: I'm pretty vocal about what I like in the bedroom and say what I'd like the bed partner to do;
+1. Open communication really is the very best way to get ideas out there in a constructive manner that's conducive to the enhanced pleasure of all involved. Beyond that, I'd say that Bondo's suggestion to use visual aids is right on the money. One of my favorite pasttimes that I still engage in frequently is watching adult videos with female friends of mine for entertainment's sake by breaking out some snacks, getting comfy, and sharing some laughs & insights as we marvel at the stellar acting performances and inventive story plots. hehe In the midst of that fun, we converse openly about the specific physical activities that are taking place on the screen, and we'll regularly borrow ideas from things that we've seen on screen that appealed to us in some way and work them into our own intimate scenarios. Granted in order for this to work well you really do need to have a very tight-knit & trusting friendship/relationship with the open-minded person in question, but if you do then it can be a definite home run.
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CJ, Martial Law and Bondo definitely have the advice to take. It all comes down to letting her know verbally what you're looking for if using non-verbal cues hasn't worked so far. Since you're already married and she's completely open about involving her feet in your sex life, I don't think she will be offended by seeing visual examples of what you like or are looking for from her or some sort of verbal guidance. Something in the heat of the moment like, "Stroke me off with your feet" could very well yield positive results since you're stating what you want. With her feet already involved and her not having any issues with it, it's pretty obvious that she wants to please you. I would take the advice of the others and express your desire verbally or through a visual example or two.
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quote:Originally posted by Bondo: I can think of a couple of things that might help you. One thing that might help is a visual. Maybe you can show her a video clip of how you like it done (there's certainly ne shortage of footjob clips on the Internet).
Great suggestion. I had thought about that because I frequently peruse vidclips online (and have seen may examples of great positions and actions). The problem is- she doesn't know that. I can't really say "hey babe- I was cruising the net and look what I found" So I'm a little hesitant to do that- but it would be the best way.
quote:The second way is to physically guide her. Get in position guide her feet in the position and motion that you want.
Absolutely. I think it's mostly just a mind-block for me. As I said she's very intelligent, and it just seems counter-intuitive to me that I have to show her or tell her (after all the foot-stuff we've done so far)that I want her to massage me with her feet. But I guess I do.
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quote:Originally posted by Fate111: Something in the heat of the moment like, "Stroke me off with your feet" could very well yield positive results since you're stating what you want. I would take the advice of the others and express your desire verbally or through a visual example or two.
Fate- I like that, and not shortchanging anything anyone else said, but that's agreat example of what I was looking for. I just couldn't seem to come up with something TO verbalize that would be clear and make sense to her. I also like your suggestion of doing it "in the heat of the moment." For some reason it seems like that will be more effective than mentioned it at some other time. Hopefully, she'll jump right in with both feet! Thanks again!
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Feetluvr. First, honesty is the most important thing. If you guys are that close, just open up and tell her how attractive her feet are to you. Make sure you let her know that you find all of her attractive and that her feet are only a part of it all. It is OK to want to indulge just her feet sometimes and it sounds like she is very open to it. Try being honest about it one night and I pretty much guarantee that it will end just awesome. Try saying that she knows you like her feet and like the feel of them, but want to just lie back and let her pleasure you with her feet. It does work.
As to how...here is my preference and how my lady does it to me. (As have other gals I dated before I married.) This feels awesome and involves the mind as well!!!
Sit on pillows on the floor next to you bed, with your back comfortably against the wall. Have her sit above you wearing some sexy sandals, etc. She can cross one leg over another and tease you with her feet just above you. She will slowly take her shoes off and move her bare feet around near you, showing you her toes and wiggling them for you. Have her pour baby oil on you as she holds her foot close for you to see. Whe she is ready, have her count down from ten and rest her foot on your hardness. She will be pressing you onto yourself and her toes will be on your front. Slowly, she can wiggle her toes on you. It feels great when the toes wiggle on the oil, sliding up and down a bit, but focus on the wiggling toes. She can lift up and just bruch you with the tips of her toes before she goes all out and she can start and stop a few times to rest or tease. When she is ready, she can wiggle her toes until you explode up onto your own stomach and chest. It is an AWESOME feeling.
My Debbie does that to me quite often and it is amazing. I love how she wears toes rings and ankle bracelets sometimes, and sometimes wears sexy shoes to tease. The feeling of the tips of her toes as she is about to do it is amazing. Trust me. It will all fall into place and you will get the best Footjob you ever dreamed of!!!
Good Luck! Hope this helps. Let us know how it goes.
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