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I got an issue i need help with and i think this is the right place.
I was round my mates flat a few months ago & his missus took off her shoes & was flashing her feet around when someone else made a remarc in the room "ow fmz (that aint my real name btw) likes feet" At that point Andrea asked me you like my feet too?......I was SO embarassed & felt myself turning a bright shade of red, i just dismissed the comment as quick as possible & i throught nothing else would be said of the subject.
Everytime i go round there for a spliff now she is getting her feet out & proper going to town on showing them off to me but in a sly sorta way, of course i dont wanna get caught checking her out so i do it on the sly.
My issue is now she is 90% sure i got a foot fetish & is very keen everytime i go to the flat to show her feet off, you reckon next time i am alone with her i should raise the subject & offer a foot massage etc?.......
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if i read your post properly, isn't she your mate's missus? if that is the case.. just keep being sly. I wouldn't want a fellow pal of mines looking for chances to enjoy my woman's feet. that isn't cool... and not very matey like..
granted she may be curious.. if not happy you're noticing... but.. that isn't license to make a move onto his girl's feet.
if.. she mentioned it in front of him and she wanted a massage from you and he was cool with that.. fine.. otherwise.. don't dip in someone elses honey pot.. that is only trouble.
quote:Originally posted by Sinnister: "Mates Missus" = look but never touch.
Very true, but don't be afraid to confirm that you do have a foot fetish, and be a gentleman about it- she might have a girlfriend who'd love to have herself a foot-lovin' man!
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quote:Originally posted by Sinnister: "Mates Missus" = look but never touch.
Very true, but don't be afraid to confirm that you do have a foot fetish, and be a gentleman about it- she might have a girlfriend who'd love to have herself a foot-lovin' man!
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Girlfriend doesn't mean committed. She's as much free game as he is with other women. If he doesn't want competition, he should get engaged/married.
She is probably just playing. But you could say something like; "if I were him, I'd massage them every night". If she takes you up on it, go for it. If not, drop it and enjoy the show I guess.
quote:Originally posted by coedfeet: Girlfriend doesn't mean committed. She's as much free game as he is with other women. If he doesn't want competition, he should get engaged/married.
She is probably just playing. But you could say something like; "if I were him, I'd massage them every night". If she takes you up on it, go for it. If not, drop it and enjoy the show I guess.
Wrong. Leave your friends GF alone. Not cool. Nothing wrong with enjoying the view though.
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Actually right. So many guys who haven't been in the dating world long make this mistake. Having a gf/bf doesn't mean you get the same respect as a engaged or married person does. You don't get to have your cake and eat it too. You want people to back off, you show them by making a public declaration that you are committed and she is off the market. Just dating doesn't take a person off the market. Being a friend's bf/gf doesn't take them off the market. Only getting engaged or married does.
as much sense as your point makes.. the reason why a lot of fellas have black eyes.. and a lot of cars get keyed.. is basically.. if you don't specifically say you have an open relationship while dating.. most folks expect exclusivity while dating that person.
i've seen many fights break out because a guy made a pass at a woman who was seeing someone and the guy didn't back off. i know this.. while i was dating.. one guy made a pass at my lady.. i wanted to rip him a new one.. but i stayed cool.. just to see what her views were.. and she practically ripped him a new one.. (she dropped him to the floor and put her knee to his neck while telling him about himself).
so... fmz... you can look all you want.. but don't touch unless it's something talked about and agreed upon (ie.. they bring it to your attention they're cool with that)
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I would certainly hope that a "friend" wouldn't mack on my girl. I could tolerate some playful flirting, but that's about it. Why jeapordize your friendship?
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first, dont be embarrassed about ur fetish..if a girl openly will talk about it, take this op..ive been in that position (where a girl is curious about the fetish, not a mates gf tho) and always been open, and it has served well. as for coed...i think there is some difference between casual dating and bf/gf..so if u want any exclusivity u must get engaged? i guess of course u can break up and then ur just as available as anyone else....but i wouldnt make a move on a buddy's girlfriend and use "well you two arent married!" as an excuse, because that would never fly amongst friends.
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coed feet i can see where your coming from but look at it this way.
whats the point in getting into a relationship if youre gonna start cheating? a relationship is about love and trust and caring for others feelings. if you dont wanna do that then dont get into a relationship to start with. having your cake and eating it is selfish and does not work.
secondly. after being in a relationship for a short while what girl in the right mind is gonna get married straight away? hypothetically, if i was your boyfriend of 3 months and proposed to you i think you'd tell me to get lost.
thirdly, and most importantly in the post fmz brought up. if my girlfriend started getting intimate with my close mates i'd be pretty pissed off, not becasue i want to control her but because it would hurt me emotionally. but if she did actually wanna be with my best mate then theres nothing i could do. however, i'd hope my best mate would never go near my girlfriend. infact my best mate told me he'd never get with another friends ex girlfriend just out of respect.
friendship and respect is important. swinging and being loose is good if its a mutual agreement and noone gets hurt.
i believe this was put correctly by ledaemon "mates missus= dont touch".
you gotta look at it from the other way round, how would you like it if your partner got intimate with your close friends. sounds a bit competetive, painfull and fucked up to me
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